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October 2004 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
I live in a house that was built in 2002. I'm getting financially strapped with it and I don't want to miss a payment or not be able to pay the taxes. What, if anything, can I do to sell it?
Kim P., 45
Magnolia, Texas
Dear Kim P.:
First, the good news! Your house will sell. However, the house is going to languish on the market if you keep it listed with buyowner.com. Buyowner is a great service---it's just not going to work to sell this particular property. The home needs to be marketed correctly. You need a realtor who specializes in your area who will get it listed on MLS; and HAR.com.
Then, listings need to be placed in the Houston Chronicle, and all the free real estate publications that serve the greater Houston/Northwest areas. Finally, your realtor must schedule several open houses (as quickly as possible!) on Sundays from 1:00pm - 5:00pm, and this home will move. You will make within $5,000 of what you're asking for the property, which will be a big relief to you, I know. Much success!
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Dear Kim:
My partner Todd and I have been together for almost 6 years. We have a very loving, healthy, and committed relationship. We both want to marry each other someday. It's the "someday" that's becoming a problem for me. I am ready for the next step. He's not sure.
Colleen M., 44
Wheaton, Illinois
Dear Colleen:
I'm really glad that you emailed with this question! May I be frank? Todd is not as "committed" as you are, or he would be giving you the bum's rush to get married. He is happy with the relationship exactly where it is, and he believes in the motto, "if it ain't broke, then why fix it?" His "reasons" are nothing but excuses to wait!
He feels that you are the "one" for him, but he wants to maintain the relationship on his terms, which you're finding understandably frustrating. And who wouldn't be confused and concerned after six years of courtship? The relationship no longer has any momentum and is unlikely to go anywhere beyond where it is right now---unless you pull out all the stops and nag the living daylights out of him---which I know you don't want to do.
The two of you are definitely NOT on the same page with your future goals, dreams, and desires. So, you have a decision to make and you have three options.
First, remain in the relationship as it is for the rest of your life. Second, pressure Todd to make a formal commitment to you in a marriage. Third, end the relationship and move on to eventually meet and marry a Mr. Wonderful who shares your dreams for the future; and what's more, is ready, willing, and able to make the supreme sacrifice!
Your angels recommend that you choose door number three. It will take courage, but if you don't make this move, then you're only going to become more unhappy and bored because you're not being true to yourself. It is your destiny to have a heart, mind, body, and soul relationship. If that was possible with Todd, it would have been a reality years ago. I send you many hugs! I've been there!
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Dear Kim:
I have three kids that are 10, 7, and 3. I am currently divorced. I still love my ex, not too sure why though. He was unfaithful and now wants to work things out. Is there ever a Mr. Right? Has the past turbulent years done damage to my children?
Dee Ann, 38
Santa Fe, Texas
Dear Dee Ann:
Thank you so much for your question. Your ex needs therapy for his drinking, and I would be very careful about allowing the children to ride with him when he is behind the wheel of ANY kind of motorized vehicle, even if it's a riding lawnmower!
I don't see him willing to go to therapy and work through his issues, so in essence, he is telling you that he has chosen to continue being self-indulgent, immature, and untrustworthy. He is likely to be unfaithful again, and his drinking will continue. So refusing to accept him back on those terms is a rather simple decision to make for you and your babies.
It would be an outstanding idea for you and your children to get into therapy to help sort out everything that has happened in the last three years, and to begin a successful healing process that will lead to the happiest of outcomes for you all. This therapy will be a real investment in your future. And once your healing is almost complete, I see a wonderful man coming into your life who will be as healthy and balanced as you will be. You can do this---and you must for the sake of your children.
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Kim O'Neill
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Spring, Texas 77388
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