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October 2006 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
My husband and I have a rocky marriage and now have a beautiful little girl who is almost a year old. We briefly tried marriage counseling; but my husband travels frequently so it is hard to schedule these things. Will we ever work through our differences or will the marriage come to an end?
Amy G., 33
Austin, Texas
Dear Amy:
Your angels tell me that you have lost interest in your husband because of three major issues: First, he has hurt your feelings repeatedly because he doesn’t make you feel like a priority. Second, he doesn’t always honor his promises and commitments to you. Third, he doesn’t appear to be wilting on the vine when he’s away from you, nor does he make up for lost time (romantically speaking) when he returns home.
You two are on separate paths now. Plus, if you don’t mind me saying so, I don’t see that you were ever madly in love with him. The marriage has come to a close. Can you see yourself married to this man ten years from now? You’d throw yourself from the top of a building!
Your angels advise you to get a full time job, file for divorce, ask your husband to leave the marital premises, and get on with your life. PS: It is highly unlikely that your husband will fight you for custody of your little honeymuffin. He loves her, but he prefers for you to have the day-to-day responsibility.
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Dear Kim:
First, let me say we have had 2 sessions over the last two years, and I enjoyed both of them! You gave me a lot of information and things to look forward to; the problem appears to be ME. You communicated that in order for me to get to my life’s work, I would need to leave the comfort and security of my current company which I have been at for 18 years. You can see how this would challenge me a bit. But it also seems to challenge my husband. I don’t get strong support from him when we talk about the possibility of leaving. Is this still the path I need to follow? I think it is, and if so, have I missed the right opportunity because I have waited so long?
Sharon K.
Austin, Texas
Dear Sharon:
Transition is always a challenge, but if you allow that to hold you back, you’ll never build the life of your dreams. Everything is still wide open for you—so Go, Girl, Go! You already know the right path to take. Start putting one foot in front of the other. And so what if your hubby isn’t exactly on the same page? DO NOT WAIT for his passionate support.
He’ll get with the program when he sees that you are more confident and enthusiastic. You have appeared hesitant and too scared to move forward, so that makes him doubt that you really know what you want. He’s a great guy and he’d do anything he could to help you with your transition. Muster some empowerment and go for the gold, baby! You’ll end up with much more security than you have now...and you’ll be doing something that makes your heart and soul sing. The ball is in your court!
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Dear Kim:
I am a single mom and recently life has thrown many challenges and obstacles in our way. I am struggling getting over what I thought was the love of my life and wondering if my soul mate exists? Also I am being forced to find a new home for my family and restricted to a one person income. Is there a light at the end of this tunnel of uncertainty?
Kari K.
Bellflower, CA
Dear Kari:
Thank god that relationship has broken off. He was giving you all kinds of messages that he wasn’t Mr. Wonderful; for example, he frequently made your life very stressful and unhappy. He is far too selfish to ever put anyone’s feeling before his own—unless he goes into therapy—and the chances of that are slim to none. Good riddance!
Get on your beautiful knees, honey, and thank god and all of your angels for helping you close that painful chapter of your life. Now the decks are cleared for Mr. Right, whom you’ll meet about two years from now. To answer your other question: It is very important that you find a new job because only then will you make a better salary. And, your angels suggest that you rent a small house rather than lease a cramped apartment. Every morning, tell yourself "I am open to receiving." Your destiny is to open your own business, marry a soul mate, and move to a lovely home outside of San Diego. You can and will make it through this period. You have everything to look forward to!
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Dear Kim:
My gut tells me March of 2007 is when I will become pregnant. I was wondering if maybe you could give me a time frame?
Eva E.
Houston, Texas
Dear Eva:
You will become pregnant as early as February, 2007. And, I would shop for everything in pink!
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Dear Kim:
I am at a point in my life where confusion reigns supreme. I really do need some guidance. There are three men right now that I am friendly with. Their initials are T., A., and S. Out of these three people, which would work best? I would like to approach A and T and ask if they would like to go for a drink sometime.
Brenda, 45
Houston, Texas
Dear Brenda:
You’re confused? Welcome to the human race! And nothing is more confusing then relationships. Okay, here’s the brief scoop on these three men:
S: A very nice guy. Great to go out with as a pal. You could confide in him and have fun. It’s great to have male friends.
A: Don’t go down this path. He’s not for you. You two will not click. DO NOT call him for a drink, no matter how lonely you become. Call S instead.
T: He is cute, isn’t he? But you need a man with more maturity and enlightenment. DO NOT call him for a date, either, no matter how casual you tell yourself the evening would be. Sit tight and wait for Mr. Wonderful to make an appearance. You’ll know him the minute you meet him.
By the way, he’s coming into your life toward the end of next year. In the meantime, build platonic friendships to help with all of the loneliness. Don’t settle for less than what you know you want. You are not being too picky!
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