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December 2005 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
My husband Jason has all these wonderful ideas for a new business. I know where he is now is not long term and I don't know how to help him. I'm afraid it's going to ruin our marriage before we sort things out. What is he supposed to be doing? He's not himself and that scares me. I desperately need to know what to do.
Erica A., 27
Waller, Texas
Dear Erica:
First of all, you and Jason already know that he's meant to have his own business...which he will...in time. What I'm hearing from your angels is that Jason isn't upset with you or your marriage---he's just miserable where he is professionally and financially. You cannot help with this.
He is working on spiritual issues that involve patience and blooming where he is, which means that the sooner he decides to become peaceful, balanced, and centered about where he is...the sooner he will move forward! And, yes, no matter how frustrating our situation is, we can CHOOSE to become balanced and centered, and at peace with exactly what we have in the moment. Otherwise, it's impossible to enjoy life because we always have issues blowing on around us.
It would be a great idea for you to step back and stop trying to "help" or direct his spiritual traffic flow. In fact, unless he directly asks for your suggestions, counsel, or advice, your angels recommend that you clam up! Allow him to figure things out for himself---that's what he wants to do anyway. Try to maintain a focus on self, and muster some patience of your own to allow him to work things out. He will! All of the great ideas he has are meant to direct him---not stress him out!
The one thing that could lesson all the tension and angst in your household would be for both of you to channel for yourselves (independently of the other) on a weekly basis and allow your angels to direct you by providing a weekly to-do list of what you can accomplish in the immediate and short term. Your situation is very workable and you have a husband who loves you. Stand by him with love and affection during this difficult time...and remain focused on you and your direction.
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Dear Kim:
I have loved a man named Robert since August, 1985. I know he is my soul mate and I cannot get him out of my mind. We were intimate and it was perfect when we were together. But he would not commit to me. In March of 2003 he met a new woman, broke up with me, and married her in November, 2003. He called me this August to tell me how much he loved me and missed me, and I said the same. I have not heard from him since. What do you see happening in the future?
Joy M., 64
Houston, Texas
Dear Joy:
What you need to do is get Robert out of your mind...if you have to go through a frontal lobotomy to do it. You may love him, but he has demonstrated nothing but a dreadful lack of sensitivity to your feelings. It was true that he had every right to break up with you to marry someone else. But then, as a married man, he called you almost two years later and whispered sweet nothings in your ear, and he received the same back from you...and then, you hear nothing else!
I guarantee that he had a fight with his wife; so, in a moment of sheer neediness, he chose to be a real selfish nincompoop and call a woman he hurt very badly and who probably still loved him. He needed to hear from you about how wonderful he is. Then he and the wife made up...and that's why you haven't heard anything!
The universe gave you a beautiful gift when Robert married the other gal. (How would you like to be married to him, and discover he was calling another woman from his past when you two had a fight? I bet he'd be missing two very important parts of his anatomy!) Okay---enough of Robert.
Joy, you DO have someone out there. You know how you'll meet Mr. Wonderful? Your angels are suggesting that you join the online computer dating service EHarmony.com. Make it a wonderful holiday gift to yourself...you deserve it! (And readers, I know that EHarmony has been featured in previous columns...and no, I do not own stock in the company!)
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Dear Kim:
My mother was found dead in her apartment in March, 2005, in Liverpool, New York. The cause of her death was natural causes by the police and medical examiner. My mom was a very bad alcoholic and diabetic---her death, we feel, was related to that. I have been having horrible dreams with her in them and was wondering if she is trying to contact me in some way. I guess I need to know if her death was a suicide. My mom was 59 years old and we did not have an autopsy done as my mom was very private and religious. I want to make sure that she is in peace.
Emily B., 32
Houston, Texas
Dear Shelley:
I'm so sorry for your loss! And those of us who choose a parent challenged with an addiction like alcoholism sure have a tough time of it, don't we? But what great teachers those kind of parents are! Your mom died of heart failure. Her body just wore out because of her lifestyle---so you and your family were correct about that.
Your mom tells me that, since she has passed, she is finally able to enjoy her existence because she let go of some pretty gut-wrenching issues which she didn't have the courage to face while she was living on the earthly plane. She relays that she is definitely not the cause of your bad dreams.
The dreams you're having relate to unresolved issues you have with her. She says that you always had ten times the courage she did...and that you have the strength to face and resolve those issues. A few months of therapy would allow you to wrap them up very successfully...and then, blessedly...no more bad dreams! And please allow me to reassure you that your mom is in complete peace and contentment.
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Dear Kim:
I had a session with you last year at this time. You told me that I would meet my future husband this month while out at dinner with friends. It's the 21st, and no gorgeous hunk has approached me. Has my destiny changed?
Stephanie, 36
Spring, Texas
Dear Stephanie:
I remember how eager I was while I was waiting for my Mr. Wonderful. It seems to take forever, doesn't it? Your destiny hasn't changed at all---your level of patience has! Keep up the faith...he's right around the corner.
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I want to wish all of my readers the happiest, safest, and healthiest of holidays!
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