Dear Kim:
I was divorced in 2006 after being married for almost 16 years because my ex-husband molested our 12-year-old daughter. Since then I have moved on, found someone new (Joshua) and we had a sweet baby boy last year in September. I was able to establish a great career for myself and my family, and I am now being asked by Joshua to move to Minnesota (where he is from) so he can start his own business as a certified tattoo artist. I feel as I should not move without having employment lined up myself. I know that this is his dream and I really would love to move, but am afraid because I want to make sure that I can support my children on my own if needed. Any advice or insight you can offer would be greatly appreciated! 
Tanja C., 37,
Bonney Lake, WA

Dear Tanja:
You're very smart to ask these questions! And, kudos to you for considering your daughter your first priority and leaving your ex-husband. Let’s wade through all of the decisions that you’re facing now.

First, is Joshua really a Mr. Wonderful for you? He is a terrific guy and will continue to be a very loving partner and father; however, you are going to outgrow this relationship in your late forties. Second, will Joshua find happiness as a tattoo artist? Yes, he will! What an amazingly creative man he is! He looks at the human body as an empty canvas and he will create works of human art like no one has ever seen before! Third, will you enjoy living in Minnesota? No! You would be much happier living in an artsy community like Napa Valley, California. Fourth, will you be able to find employment in Minnesota? Yes, you will find all sorts of career opportunities there.

However, you must take into account that by moving there, you are ignoring your intuitive instincts. Can you proceed with this plan, knowing that—sooner or later—you will find yourself wanting to leave Minnesota because it is not the right place for you? Why not move once by choosing a locale that is perfect for you now? Joshua will be successful anywhere...and, you’ll both discover that he won't be happy moving back to Minnesota.

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Dear Kim:
I am separated from an abusive husband who I have five beautiful children with. Our children understand why I am going to divorce their father, but it does not make it any easier on them. I work full-time and go to school full-time in the evenings to complete my Bachelor's degree (English major); so our lives are really busy right now. I have two questions weighing heavily on my heart:
1. Am I making the right decision in letting my husband go?
2. I feel like I am at a point in my life where I am "stuck". Am I on the right track with my school?
Laurie R., 36,
Houston, TX

Dear Laurie:
You have thought long and hard about divorcing your husband because of how committed you have been to him and your desire to keep the family united for the childrens’ sake. But your hubby has made it literally impossible for you to stay. And, yes, you are on the right track with school. However, your angels do not agree with your assessment that you "are stuck." You're working on issues right and left; never before have you been so spiritually and emotionally productive! You’re not stuck—you’re exhausted! Stay your course and you will build the life of your dreams!

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Dear Kim:
I want a child of my own so badly. I have been through one surgery and had one of my tubes removed, and the other opened. It has been a year. The doctor said it could be a 50/50 chance of me conceiving on my own. I think I am ignoring my inner self telling me the truth of how a baby is not in my future. Should I listen to my inner self and save myself the heartache?
Renee V., 34,
Euless, TX

Dear Renee:
Your head—rather than your angels or inner-self (soul)—is creating all sorts of unnecessary fear about conception. I am not a physician, but I can provide insight from your angels about your destiny. It IS your destiny to have a child, so you have to continue mustering the courage and strength necessary to make that a reality. Do not give up now that you are almost at the finish line! Think of your quest to have a baby is like a twenty-six mile marathon; the last five miles are the hardest! You have a good doctor and he is trying to be as helpful as possible; but, at the same time, your angels have insight that is beyond the scope of human awareness.

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Dear Kim:
I would like to understand why I am afraid all the time, despite constantly working on myself to change this situation. I'm afraid to change jobs; afraid when it's my turn to speak up in a work meeting; or, describe to a new boss my past work experience and current job description. I'm afraid to impose firm limits on my son; afraid to stand up for myself when I'm being criticized; and, I'm afraid now that I will only be seeing my partner every weekend, as he'll have to commute from Paris to Germany every week for a new job. I’m afraid I've ruined everything now that I've finally told him that I would prefer to marry him than be called his girlfriend for the rest of our lives.
Gráinne M, 48,
Paris, France

Dear Gráinne:
Welcome to the human race! Of course you’re scared! Remember that we return—over and over again—to the earthly plane to deliberately encounter adversity and melodrama from which we can grow and evolve. The key is to acknowledge the fear, but not allow it to derail decision-making and follow through.

Your biggest issues are setting and maintaining boundaries; speaking up for yourself; expecting accountability from others; and, not giving a rat's ass what other people think, believe, approve of, or endorse. John Wayne, the actor, once said: "Courage is being scared to death...but saddling up anyway!" You need to make that your new motto!

In regard to your current partner: You're allowing fear to override the decision you made earlier about keeping that relationship from going any further. Get back to making choices based on what is in your best spiritual and emotional interests...rather than from fear!

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