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January 2009 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
I’m a very goal-oriented person and I have political aspirations in my state, which is named Tamaulipas. I have a dream that I could become governor. Somehow I think I’m going to make it. What do my angels think?
J. M. V.,
Reynosa, Mexico
Dear J. M. V.:
Your angels tell me that not only will you become governor, but that one day, when you are in your forties, you will run for President...and win! It is your destiny to make the world a better place and reestablish the benchmark of accountability expected of the police and other public officials. When you are in office, you will enhance and invigorate Mexico’s reputation to allow your country a greater respect from other nations. In doing so, you will help build a stronger economy and dramatically lower the crime rate, particularly with kidnappings and extortion that are so rampant now. It is imperative that you channel for yourself at least once a week to get a to-do list from your angels so that you can move forward as quickly as possible. Your country needs you!
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Dear Kim:
I am currently on my second marriage. I feel like I stayed in this marriage longer than I should have, and that I'm not with My Mr. Wonderful. My husband is, however, a wonderful man. He supports the family, helps around the house, is not selfish, but we've had problems over the years. I feel that we are still together only because of comfort. The relationship with my husband is not fulfilling for me. I often daydream about being with my Mr. Wonderful. Am I being spoiled for wanting more? Please help!
Ruth F., 36,
Cypress, TX
Dear Ruth:
You may be currently married to Mr. Congeniality, but you have clearly outgrown the teacher-student relationship and are ready to move on. Your angels have been prompting you to get a full time job, and begin divorce proceedings. However, your hubby will not want to be alone, so be prepared for him to pursue wife #2 like a starving dog going after a lamb chop.
You are "hearing" correctly that there is a Mr. Wonderful waiting in the wings for you whom you will meet when you have fully earned the opportunity...after you have mustered the courage and strength to move out of your existing comfort zone and have spent about a year alone.
This is necessary because only after you have spent that time alone, and really have gotten to know yourself, will you be able to take stock of who you are and what you are entitled to in a romantic relationship. The ball is in your court! The faster you move on—and let go of the guilt of leaving your hubby and deal with the uncomfortable fact that he will remarry before you do—the faster you will meet Mr. Wonderful.
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Dear Kim:
Is Javier my soul mate? I have been in love many times, but never felt this way...and he feels the same way. He is younger, but we are convinced that we belong to each other. He is everything I have asked for: romantic, honest, hard worker, sensitive, funny, and very sexual. I have had a sex problem with all my ex's, but Javier is just like me, and we have so much fun together. When we met, it was wonderful. We had sex only four days after, and it was so different because I'm always so shy the first time I have sex with someone, but this time was magical. It was as if he could read my mind in every second of the night.
At the time I was separated from my husband, but we were talking about getting back together, which we did. But I could never forget Javier, and I did everything I could to see him again. I have lied to him; he doesn't know that I live with my husband. I'm afraid I’ll lose him because he'd be so hurt and I don't want to cause him any pain. He is so sensitive—just what I need because I'm sensitive, too. I love him so much that I want to have his kids.
M. Y. F., 32,
Brooklyn, NY
Dear M. Y. F.:
Sweetie, you’re acting like a leaf in a windstorm. You know that you’re bored with your husband, yet you returned to him because you’re afraid of being alone and becoming responsible for supporting yourself financially. So, it was a mistake to have gone back. Plus, you’re giving him mixed messages about what you want, so he's thoroughly confused. You haven’t really gotten "back together" because you have not recommitted to him at all. You’re looking at your husband like a port in the romantic storm.
Javier—your boyfriend—is not the right man for you, either. Although he has many redeeming qualities, like a remarkable sex drive, he is not mature enough for you and would not make you happy in the long run. If you were truly afraid of hurting him, you would not be carrying on a charade and lying to him.
You have to ask yourself some penetrating questions: why are you staying with a husband whom you clearly do not love—in spite of the fact that you’ve met another man whom you think is a soul mate? If you’re so sensitive and afraid of hurting Javier, and value the "magical" relationship, then why haven’t you taken the necessary action to be with him—like leaving your husband? Why do you find the self-sabotaging intrigue of being married to one man and sneaking away to have sex with another so exciting?
Your angels recommend that you consider therapy to help you find the answers to these questions. Only after you have resolved these issues will you attract the man of your dreams and build a healthy quality of life. Please take this action now to ensure that your future is more stable and centered.
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Dear Kim:
I started my own consulting business in 2007. The business has done really well, but it hasn't been without quite a few long nights and compromises. I love owning my own business and the challenges of making it work; yet, I am not sure that it is where I should be and what I should be doing with my life?
Paula A., 34,
Johannesburg, South Africa
Dear Paula:
You're taking risks, mustering the courage necessary to follow your dreams, and maintaining faith in your instincts! Great work! The consulting business you started was supposed to be a stepping stone, not a final destination...so that's one of the reasons you are feeling a bit restless. It's time to move to the second stage of your consulting work: holistic healing and writing nonfiction books about the subject. You are going to be known worldwide as one of the best healers in your generation, and you're going to spearhead a huge grass roots holistic healing movement.
Start your first book now; and, as you do so, you will jumpstart the healing ability that you have already developed in past lives that is such an integral component of your soul energy. Destiny dictates that you will be a great teacher and healer, and that this is likely to be your last lifetime on the earthly plane. Get as much done as you can to allow future generations to benefit from your wisdom and enlightenment.
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Dear Kim:
I have been married for 7 years, and I really need to know if my husband has been cheating on me. He has the signs of an unfaithful spouse. I can't spend any more time being in this marriage. He acts like he does not want to be around me and he does not show me any affection at all. We have three kids together. Is he being unfaithful? He tells me that he is not cheating, but he really been acting very strange lately.
Tiffany P., 30,
Los Angeles, CA
Dear Tiffany:
You’d be acting "very strange," too, if your spouse was accusing you of cheating—especially if the person accusing you acted like a seasoned district attorney grilling a squirming suspect on the witness stand! If you’re not a trial attorney, you’ve missed your true calling! (Only kidding)
You're a gal who doesn't pull any punches, and that's a blessing because everyone lucky enough to be a part of your life knows exactly where he or she stands. Your husband is not cheating. He is the world’s worst liar, and you are incredibly intuitive, so there’s no way he could hide that from you. To be brutally honest, he thinks you know when he's going to urinate before he does. You are, however, correct in your assessment that he is distancing from you. Walk away with grace and dignity, and remember to appreciate what you two have shared in the past. After all, you wouldn't have your precious babies without him. Make nice because of the children and move on. Besides, you’ve outgrown the relationship, too, so why are you so angry with him for having done so? Drop him like a hot potato, and join eHarmony so that you can meet and marry a soul mate. Stop fighting true progress!
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