February 2010 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
I’ve heard great things about you. So here I am emailing you one question that could make me or break me. I’m involved with a 45 year-old man who is going through a divorce. Will this relationship be lasting and happy for me, even with all the extra stuff that’s involved, and will we get the house that was last on the list?
Lupita A., 25,
Houston, TX
Dear Lupita:
I am so glad that you wrote to me because I have a lot of information to share! The man in question is absolutely terrific and of Mr. Wonderful caliber—but he is not your Mr. Wonderful. I know this isn’t easy to hear, but you were not destined to be together long term. Although you are both extraordinary individuals, marriage with him is likely to end in a divorce.
The reason you two met was to be both student and teacher for one another. Once the learning experience is over, the relationship will be, too! However, let me reassure you that another man is coming into your life—when you are in your early thirties—who will be a romantic soul mate and offer you the relationship you yearn for. You will marry, have children, and be immensely happy...but ONLY if you wait until the right man comes along! Muster the courage and strength to live completely on your own, outside of a romance, which is the best path toward building true emotional and financial independence and empowerment. Only then can you create the life of your dreams. Allow your life to unfold without nudging a relationship to be more than it was destined to become.
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Dear Kim:
My husband and I have been together for eighteen years. He and I have both hurt each other over that time with infidelity. He was rarely there for me while I was pregnant with each of our children and instead turned to porn. I would like to put the past behind us and move on. He is having difficulty doing so. Will we be able to save our marriage?
Kim W., 34,
Hanover, MD
Dear Kim:
As each day unfolds, there will be more of an emotional chasm between you and your husband. Through his actions, your hubby has already made it clear that he’s moved on. Your angels tell me that you realize the marriage has been over for some time, and they believe what you’re really asking is "where do I go from here?" You should know that it’s unlikely that you will get regular child support after the divorce; so, please realize that the lion’s share of what you can financially depend upon from hubby is what you walk away with as a settlement. (Which won’t be much.) For the first time, you will be financially responsible for supporting yourself and the children completely alone, so try not to allow fear to derail your decision to divorce. Keep in mind: you’ve already been living the life of a single mom in the relationship! It’s actually going to be a lot easier and less stressful living alone with the kids...without hubby creating turmoil, disappointment, and melodrama!
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Dear Kim:
I’m almost 40 and have never been married, nor do I have any children. I’ve never had a real relationship. I’ve been involved in a long distance relationship with a man who is six years my junior, but I’m not sure it’s going anywhere. Will I ever find love and have the family I long for?
Andrea H., 39,
San Antonio, TX
Dear Andrea:
You are correct that your long distance relationship is dead in the water. It’s a blessing that you realize it and are not clinging to him like an emotional life preserver! Good for you! One of the reasons that you are longing for your romantic soul mate is because he is part of your future. How could you feel emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically complete and "whole" with such a huge part of your destiny left to achieve? You are sensing what is coming; but, like that old expression, Mr. Wonderful is "so close...and yet so far!" (If there was never going to be a romantic soul mate coming into your life, your angels would be extremely candid and simply tell you.)
What is missing in your intuitive awareness of your love life is the timing. Your angels tell me that you are likely to meet him when you are 42, and that a marriage will take place shortly after your first date. Your destiny also dictates that you will have two daughters. Take heart: I had my children at 44 and 45 with no fertility help! You planned your destiny to meet and marry Mr. Wonderful after you had worked through your serious issues...and...it takes as long as it takes! You have certainly earned the happy future that awaits you! Have faith that he is coming.
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Dear Kim:
I have a question about the predicament I placed myself in: I got fired from my job as a nurse and am not sure what to do next. I have no savings so I need to find a job, but I also want to focus on my spiritual development in the coming year by joining 4 week retreats in an ashram in India. Could you give me insight about what I should do?
Rimke V., 57,
Bergen, Netherlands
Dear Rimke:
Your angels created the recent career transition, citing that you had outgrown your job some time ago, but were feeling trapped and stuck, having no idea what you could—or should—move on to. At the same time, your angels were trying to direct you to spend time in the Indian ashram; and, then, write a book about your experiences, which would make a fascinating memoir about spiritual growth. Your book would inspire many people to follow their dreams; and, in doing so, better understand how they can apply their own special gifts, talents, and abilities in service to others.
In the meantime, to earn a living, your angels do not recommend that you start your own business because you need to make money NOW. It is true that you could get another nursing job, but since you have reached a point of burnout with nursing, your angels suggest that you consider pursuing a job as an outside salesperson for a company that sells medical tools and products. That way, you would be planning your own schedule, which would be a welcome relief. I look forward to reading your books!
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Dear Kim:
Why does my dog lift his leg and pee on my furniture?
Nancy A., 65,
Holland, Ohio
Dear Nancy:
Your angels tell me that your dog’s issue is not physical. Although you consistently shower him with affection, your "baby" is a little spoiled and wants your constant attention. He has learned that when he relieves himself on your furniture, you immediately react and make him your main focus. He figures that negative attention is better than no attention at all. If you cover your furniture with plastic, he'll simply pee somewhere else inside that he knows will upset you.
He has to understand that he cannot possess you like a chew toy. He is very smart and literally running the show by controlling you. The only way you’ll be able to resolve this issue is to hire an animal therapist to work with your dog; but, then, you must follow the example the therapist establishes to the letter—like tough love—or things will fall back into this dysfunctional pattern.
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