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March 2006 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
My daughter was married last summer. They would like to have children, but my son-in-law is dealing with a medical issue that may make it difficult for them to conceive; and my daughter's use of birth control pills has left her natural hormone levels unbalanced. They will try to conceive naturally for 24 months; after that, they have been advised that artificial insemination may be necessary. Will they be able to have a healthy child without using artificial methods?
Ellen B., 45
Grand Rapids, MN
Dear Ellen:
Your daughter and her darling hubby are destined to have at least three very healthy children. We just have to discuss how! Her hormones will not pose a problem at all because she is so young. Her fallopian tubes are open; she has plenty of fresh, soft eggs; and a uterus that is strong and resilient. Plus, your daughter ovulates twice some months, so she is the picture of good, fertile health! Although her babies will be big, I see vaginal births; and all of the children will come in the next five years.
Now...lets take a look at your son-in-law. He has enough sperm (and they are decent swimmers) to successfully impregnate her. I would be very surprised if she was not pregnant by this September. The key: they need to start trying two days after her period ends, and then every day thereafter for the next ten days. This will NOT dilute his sperm count. Then they can rest (that is...if they want to) until after her next period ends.
Meanwhile, don't waste any time! You should be out looking for baby beds and deciding what you want the grandbabies to call you; and the newlyweds should be thinking about baby names: Elizabeth, Claire, Jennifer, Alexis...
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Dear Kim:
I think your book, How to Talk With Your Angels, is great. Since I haven't gotten all my answers, I decided to ask the expert. I need your advice. Nobody has been able to help me so far and I do not know what to do anymore. Everything I have tried so far has had a terrible outcome for me, including the store my husband and I had. I am so confused. I have recently gotten my real estate license. Is this my calling? What is the best move for me to start making money?
Sonia K., 27
Miami, Florida
Dear Sonia:
After reading your email, I was tempted to bake some of my wonderful, gooey chocolate chip cookies and mail them to you! Sweetie, you need some good chocolate. (When under terrible stress, a girl has to do what a girl has to do.)
First of all, the events that took place that ended in "terrible outcomes" helped you learn, grow, and become more mature and enlightened. Without that adversity, you wouldn't be the woman you are now. God is not punishing you; those hard learning experiences were all a necessary part of your destiny to get you to this point. I know what you're wondering right now. "So where the %&*^#@ am I?"
You are at the point where you are ready to begin your life's work as an entrepreneur. You are going to be financially self-supporting, which is part of your dream. (You'll never have to professionally kiss another rear end again.) Real estate IS where you will succeed; specifically, renovating residential properties. Your angels guided you to get your license---and you picked up on that perfectly! You're really not confused---you're just exhausted, frustrated, and scared! Besides munching on good chocolate, you need to pick yourself up and move forward just like you've always done. No one has ever handed anything to you before, right? So what else is new? You're the only one who can create the success...and you CAN do it! My fingers, toes, and all other extremities are crossed for you!
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Dear Kim:
You gave me a wonderful reading about ten months ago. I have a question regarding my 5-year-old daughter, Mariam. I am concerned that I am failing her as a parent. Mariam has a ton of energy and is always in trouble for jumping on the furniture, screaming, and being a jokester to her 91-year-old grandfather or older sister. What can I do to help her channel her energy in a positive manner?
Tracie K., 35
Houston, Texas
Dear Tracie:
Of course you feel as if you're failing Mariam! I believe that most parents sometimes feel that way about their parenting skills unless they're in total denial. Why should you be any different? Mom to Mom---let's talk frankly. Is there anything else in the universe that has ever made you feel as incompetent, ignorant, or stupid then parenting?! I don't believe that children should be medicated---I think that we parents need it a lot more. When you became a parent, you joined the "I sure wish I had a Valium" club.
Mariam is not hyperactive, nor does she suffer from attention deficit disorder. She has tremendous energy that she needs to work off every day. (If she can't play outside, challenge her to see how many times she can run around the dining room table.) She is a healthy, joyful little being who is as spirited as they come. Why does she deliberately play jokes on Grandpa and her sister? Because she CAN, and she finds their reaction hilarious! She is enormously creative, intelligent, and intuitive, and she enjoys pushing the envelop to see what naughty stuff she can get away with...because it gives her a feeling of power and control. We all need that---even darling little Libra girls.
What your angels tell me is that you are not being consistent with your boundaries---so it compels your honeymuffin to test the waters even more. Your angels recommend that when your daughter is choosing to be naughty, that you immediately give her a choice. The choice will give her a feeling of power because it is she who will make the choice. For example: "Mariam, you have a choice. You can either stop torturing Grandpa and play quietly with your sister, or, you can go to your room." Make the second choice as ghastly as you can; so, if you do time-outs, then give her the choice of a gruesomely long time-out instead of going to her room. Get the picture?
You must be consistent, no matter how tired you are. And on the other occasions when she chooses to be a "big" girl, acknowledge her positive behavior with incentives like bubble baths, reading a new book, going to the movies, a cool playground, etc. Mariam needs things to look forward to that she has to earn.
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Dear Kim:
Could my Pittsburgh friend Alan be The One for me as I age?
Joy M., 64
Houston, Texas
Dear Joy:
That all depends on what you want. If you are looking for a friend and companion, Alan fits the bill perfectly. However, if you are looking for a soul mate and husband, you're feeding oats to a dead horse. (Figuratively speaking, of course.)
What your angels tell me is that you'll be happiest being married to someone with whom you're in love...and you're not in love with Alan. Nor are you in love with H. V. M. who resides in Houston. The man for you---The One---hasn't come into your life yet. Your angels are going to try to bring him into your life in the last part of this year, and you're going to meet him in Houston. You have the best relationship of your life still to come!
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