Dear Kim:
I quit my job last June because my daughter moved away and said she desperately needed my help as she was starting a new job. I worked very hard for her. By the end of the summer, she managed to get my house in her name, tried to take my car, almost killed my cat, and beat me up quite severely. My son came and got me and brought me to his house temporarily. Then I fell and broke my ankle and ended up staying 10 weeks; unemployed. Now, he and his wife are splitting up and I'm homeless again and still unemployed. I have your first book and am trying very hard to channel and sometimes I get something. I think I'm too stressed. Anyway, I'm very frightened and don't know what is going to happen. Can you please tell me where I can find employment (I think Arby's) and where will I live. Please help me, I'm begging you.
Kelsey G., 55,
Holland, MI

Dear Kelsey:
It’s a bitter pill to swallow (at least it was for me!) to acknowledge that we alone are responsible for our quality of life. To begin unraveling all of this melodrama: your adult daughter deliberately chose to take a job in another city. So why the dickens did you quit your job the moment she crooked her finger in your direction? Then, once you did what she asked, your life became a bad B movie!

Following this emotional and physical nightmare, you decided to move in with your son, and broke your ankle. Spiritually speaking, have you considered the direct correlation between breaking your ankle and your fear of moving forward to create your own life? You had a job and a home once, correct? But, for some reason, after making the choice to move close to your daughter, you continued to make a series of decisions that profoundly sabotaged your independence and empowerment.

Ask yourself why you gave away that hard-won self-reliance? Presently, you are "homeless and unemployed." I think the universe is trying to force you into once again taking responsibility for your quality of life. Anytime we allow ourselves to be emotionally or financially adopted, the universe responds by ratcheting up the stress to force us to build a better quality of life in which we feel that we're at the helm of our own ship. See the pattern of what’s happened?

But you do have a lot to look forward to! For example, never again will you abandon your life for someone else for fear of ending up where you are presently. That is a huge spiritual commitment to self! Good work! Allow your kids to learn from their own experiences without trying to bail them out, and refrain from expecting them to return the favor. You’re in the right church/wrong pew when you ask about Arby's.

I'm hearing your angels telling me that you should get a job waiting tables. You could get that kind of job today! Learn the restaurant business from the ground up, and this will allow you to one day open your own place. You’d love having your own business, and a restaurant is just the ticket for you to build security and peace of heart. Having a hard time visualizing how you—a waitress—could one day buy your own place? Rent the old movie Mildred Pierce with Joan Crawford. You can do this—it’s your destiny. In the meantime, keep trying to practice your channeling and your angels can support your progress one step at a time.

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Dear Kim:
I am grieving the death of one of our cats. He was 14 years old and had been suffering from cancer. I nursed him and then made the hardest decision I've ever had to make, to euthanize. Is he around us feeling bewildered or hurt that we can't see him? My heart is just breaking. He was one of my "children". Is Andy around us in spirit?
Laurie E., 49,
Charleston, SC

Dear Laurie:
Yes, indeed, Andy’s spirit is hovering. He dreadfully misses all of you and wants to return to a physical life as quickly as possible. He tells me that you two were especially close, that he is a confidant, trusted companion, and guardian angel for you, and that you used to cuddle all the time…which he adored! You had to help him make his transition because of his suffering, and he wishes to offer his heartfelt thanks and acknowledge the courage it took for you. He tells me that it might have been an easier decision to "put down" your hubby than it was a fuzzy child! (He obviously has a remarkable sense of humor.)

Similar to your angels, Andy’s soul is assigned to you, which means that the two of you have enjoyed many lifetimes together, with you as a human being and he in animal form. Andy asks that you visit an animal shelter and adopt a male kitten. Once you do that, his soul will enter the kitten’s body and you’ll have many years together. His soul will not enter the animal’s body until you have formally adopted a kitten, so you don’t have to search far and wide for a “sign” of his personality in all of the kittens that you consider. Once the adoption is final, you’ll know that Andy’s soul has entered the little body because his darling personality will shine through.

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Dear Kim:
I would like to find out if and when my health issues will improve? Will I ever be able to resume my previous active life and education, or should I prepare for life to remain as it is today? I would also like some input regarding my soul purpose, if you have input on that.
Maggie M., 62,
Houston, Texas

Dear Maggie:
Your health is going to improve and you will resume your previous levels of activity. The question is...how? Believe it or not, you have the power to holistically heal yourself. First, you must work through the issues of anger, frustration, and impatience. I'm not suggesting that you do not have a reason to feel those things; however, those lingering emotions are preventing your healing from taking place. You could have been healed some time ago—and valuable time is passing during which you could be conducting your life’s work. So, onward and upward!

First, begin to visualize that you are healthy, vibrant, and completely mobile. Actually "see" yourself as youthful and active. Instead of investing energy towards anger and frustration—which always causes depression—instead invest that emotional energy into visualizing that you are healed. How do I know that this simple process can help you heal? It's the Law of Attraction. (If you haven’t already done so, pick up a copy of The Law of Attraction by Jerry and Esther Hicks.)

What you focus on most will become a tangible part of your life. Your life's purpose involves healing and teaching others—who are initially going to feel the way you do now when you first meet them. As you assist in their forward movement, it will allow them to progress to achieve their own life’s work. See the ripple effect? Muster all the faith you can and begin to visualize your own good health. Start the positive, optimistic visualization, and soon you'll be taking up the reins of a successful healing practice. Don't delay...there are many others who are praying for a healing—which only you can create!

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Dear Kim:
I have this brother-in-law whom I find very attractive. How does he feel about me?
Carmela C., 34,
Hemet, CA

Dear Carmela:
Lay down until the feeling passes! Your brother-in-law thinks you're beautiful—but what man wouldn't? Learning to channel sure saves a girl a lot of unnecessary emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical wear and tear!

I was once so lonely when I was single that I began to fantasize about my ex-husband's (emotionally) unavailable friend, who I knew was completely wrong for me! When I channeled, my angels told me to hold back, so I did not approach him, but I certainly spent time thinking about him in all sorts of romantic situations. A girl has to do something while she's waiting for Mr. Wonderful! So, fantasize about your brother-in-law and enjoy the imagery until a real Mr. Wonderful crosses your path.

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Dear Kim:
I attended one of your seminars in 2005. I was one of the lucky ones that had the pleasure of a quick reading about my soul mate. The time frame you gave me came and went, which was okay. I continued on my merry way focusing on living life with friends and work. All the while keeping the faith that the man you described to me was on his way...just a bit delayed. About a year ago, I was reconnected with an old friend (let's call him Key) that lead to a relationship lasting about a year. He helped me reconnect with a part of myself that I thought had long since faded away. Although, he, without knowing it, took a part of me away that is taking an extreme amount of strength to get back. I want to find peace with that lost part of myself. I sometimes wonder that if I knew the true reason of why we are no longer together... I would achieve this peace. Now, I am left wondering what was the truth behind Key and where is this soul mate you described to me.
Cerin H., 31,
Conroe, TX

Dear Cerin:
Key arrived on the scene courtesy of your guardian angels to help you tie up a few issues that were preventing Mr. Wonderful's arrival. Key helped you conduct important spiritual work that included reconnecting with your higher self. When the relationship with Key ran its course, you were alone again.

But rather than see how close you were to meeting your soul mate, you began to feel unlovable and depressed just like before Key came into the picture. (Welcome to the human race!) Key didn’t take "part of you" away with him! When the temporary relationship with him inevitably came to a conclusion, all of the dreams and hopes you had for that romance died...and that's what you found so upsetting.

However, smart girl that you are, you always knew in your heart that Key was not of Mr. Wonderful caliber for you. But it's not easy to be all alone again, is it, after connecting with someone like you did with Key? That relationship had to come to an end to pave the way for Mr. Wonderful. The time you spent with Key was certainly not wasted, but the energy you are investing in regret and confusion since the breakup is delaying your meeting The One. The sooner you find closure with being alone again, and acknowledge how Key opened you like a blooming flower, the faster your soul mate will come into the picture.

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