Dear Kim:
I am writing to you about my cousin. Her name is Angela, and last week she lost her unborn child in her fifth month of pregnancy. She got an infection and it weakened the uterus wall and she went into labor. She gave birth to Tommy, who was perfect except that his lungs were not developed and he died shortly afterwards. My question for you is what can I say to her to help her sadness? She blames herself because she got the infection from her youngest child, who got the infection from another child at daycare. I know that she must grieve, but I want her to know that things will be okay - maybe not today, but in the future. Anything you can tell me would be greatly appreciated. 
Clark G., 41,,
Portland, Oregon

Dear Clark:
How kind of you to write about your cousin. Unless someone has experienced this kind of loss, they cannot imagine the torment and guilt. In her heart, Angela realizes that she did not cause the death of her baby, and that she would never intentionally have done anything to put him at risk. During the pregnancy, she felt him kicking and moving, and an intense bonding process began. Then, she went through the birth, and saw him outside of her body, creating even more bonding. To lose him after all of that is an unspeakable amount of emotional trauma and grief for anyone to bear!

Although I am not a healthcare provider, I am intuiting from Angela’s angels that she will become pregnant with this child again, and give birth to a healthy, robust, full-term baby. This will be her last child, and they will be incredibly close. The baby’s soul hovers around her, trying to communicate, and this could be of great comfort to her. If you email your street address, I will send you a copy of my book, Bond With Your Baby Before Birth. I wrote the book because I have channeled for so many woman from all over the world who have suffered stillbirths and miscarriages (including me), who then—a little later—became pregnant with the same soul that they lost. Your cousin’s angels tell me that she is a wonderful mother, and her children—including the one that’s coming—are truly blessed by her beautiful, spiritual presence.

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Dear Kim:
I have been married to my husband for five years...all of which he has threatened to divorce me at the smallest argument. I have two children from a previous marriage, a two-year-old baby with him, plus, I raised his daughter from his previous marriage. On my 40th birthday, he surprised me with divorce papers. Now that I have accepted our situation, I am comfortable moving forward with the divorce. The only problem is that now he wants to work things out, and is claiming some "outside source" has caused this split. Do I give this man another chance, or do I continue to move forward on my own?
Teresita S., 40,
Magnolia, Texas

Dear Teresita:
When you married this man, you believed that he would take good care of you and your children, correct? What he really wanted was for you to take care of him, and to control your every waking moment! Now that you have suffered all of this melodrama, you are stronger, and much more empowered and independent. Your hubby continually threatens you because he wants to maintain control...through fear! The divorce papers that were meant to devastate you were the best birthday gift you could have ever received! And, now, because he senses that you are no longer afraid to be alone and it is very likely that he will lose control over you, he approaches to work things out...by making up a ridiculous excuse about an "outside source" causing the split! What caused the split was his intolerable cruelty, abusiveness, selfishness, and manipulative need to control! Your hubby is a man who has a need to punish women. Are you going to continue to be his victim—or have you finally had enough? And, what are your darling, vulnerable children learning from him? Consider this disastrous marriage as lessons well learned and move on NOW!

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Dear Kim:
I have been married to my husband for eight and a half years, with three wonderful children, and one on the way. For the past seven years I have secretly been attracted to another man, who has no idea. I am starting to disconnect from my husband. Should I stay and try to work on my marriage or start a new life of my own?
Amy J., 34,
Magnolia, TX

Dear Amy:
Thank God you haven't approached the other man. The reason that you feel warm fuzzies for him is because you two have shared a number of past lives together. It has nothing whatsoever to do with a shared destiny in this lifetime! Enjoy the attraction, but do not pursue it! Your husband is a great guy, and your angels believe that you truly love him.

However, you are incredibly bored! Not with your marriage, or the kids, but with what you are doing (or not doing) with your life. You continue to repeat the very same tasks and responsibilities over and over again, as the days unfold into weeks, and the weeks unfold into months, and the months unfold into years. What do you have to look forward to? Same old—same old...right? Who wouldn’t be experiencing mind-numbing boredom! You’re not "disconnecting" from your hubby; you’re disconnecting from YOU.

Honey, you do need a big shift and right away. Not in connection with your husband, your children, or your home...but the kind of life-changing shift that comes from getting involved with your life’s work. Your destiny is to start your own business. As you work toward that, you will re-ignite all of the excitement that you used to feel and your life will change 180 degrees!

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Dear Kim:
My husband and I have been separated since August, 2008, and have both moved on. We tried to work things out, but I found out he was seeing another woman. The other woman is still holding on to him. He and I have become good friends and we communicate on almost a daily basis. Question: Why does she continue to hold on to the relationship even knowing he still communicates with me when he is not supposed to? Will they really have a life/marriage together and are we going to continue to be friends?
Claudia R., 36,
Houston, TX

Dear Claudia:
No, darling, you have not moved on at all. You are still legally married, and you continue a relationship with your husband. Isn’t he the same man who lied to you about 'working things out' while he romanced another woman? And you continue to be 'good friends'? Your husband is using you as a port in the storm! He doesn’t want to commit himself to you, but he doesn’t want to move on, either.

If a man is a good friend, he does not lie to you, cheat on you, and do things that he knows will hurt you. Plus, if he is 'not supposed' to communicate with you...then why is he? He is lying to the other woman, too! The question really is: why do you continue to hold on to the relationship when it is clearly over? A year-and-a-half of your precious life has been squandered while you wait..for what? Don’t you want a man who loves you and is truly entitled to your love? Until you get a divorce, your life is on hold. Sever all ties with your hubby, which must happen before your angels can bring a Mr. Wonderful into your life.

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