Dear Kim:
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I love him dearly and realize that he is a special man. However, we get into these fights that leave me drained, depressed, and confused. He makes me feel like I am not a 'good' enough partner, that I don't say the right things to him, or do the right things for him. I think he feels that I am selfish. His latest anger has been directed at me because I told him that I would go to one or two football games with him. It is something that I don't enjoy, but can do once or twice a season. He was very offended. Before that, he was upset with me because he felt that I wasn't taking my diet/exercise program seriously; before that, he was upset that I did not have a job (which I have since found), and before that, I was not spending enough time with him. I feel inadequate, that I can do nothing right. I don't know what to do.  
A. A., 33,
Baltimore, MD

Dear A. A.:
Thank God you have not married this man! Tell your controlling, critical boyfriend that if he is looking for total obedience, he should get a dog. If you were a selfish person, he would have left you in the dust a long time ago. Your boyfriend is selfish and self-centered, and wants everything his way. You are a mature adult, not a child who has to answer to him. You do not owe him explanations, excuses, or apologies for the choices you make, how you honor your goals, or, for your likes and dislikes. You can—and must—get along without this man; it is critical for you to break off this relationship before he shatters all of your self-esteem and confidence! Only you can decide how much more of this you are willing to endure.

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Dear Kim:
I have been out of work since April 2009 and am anxious about getting back into the workforce.  Jobs are few and far between in my area. I have applied for several jobs with no luck. What do you see in my future? I worked as a cook for the Merchant Marines on a Naval Tugboat and loved the job, but have not been called back. I am now in a relationship and helping him take care of his dying mother. Please advise, I’m in limbo.
Sharon D., 52,
Milan, New Hampshire

Dear Sharon:
As you probably already suspect, you have outgrown everything about your current life. You would be happiest living around beautiful, crystal clear water and lots of trees. Your angels strongly recommend that you consider relocating to British Columbia. You would adore the scenery, the people, and the vigorous, outdoorsy way of life there. Next, your angels recommend that you begin a new facet of your career as a cook and get a job in BC as a chef. You could find this opportunity through the local newspaper there. The man you are currently seeing is very nice, but not a romantic soul mate, as you have already determined. You do have a Mr. Wonderful in BC whom you could meet during your first year there! BC is certainly the promised land for you! Please consider taking this risk and you could find greater happiness than you’ve ever known.

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Dear Kim:
I've worked in the education field with children in the past, and currently with adults. I've also run a small business on the side since my children were babies. Now that my children are older and I am seeking more full time work, I'd like to know which of these I should actively pursue. I've been told that I need to be around children to feed my passion. Can my angels provide more specific guidance as to which path(s) to follow at this point in my life?
Yolanda B., 46,
Portland, OR

Dear Yolanda:
The dynamics of your life's work involves: being a teacher for others, working in a leadership capacity, having your own business, setting your own daily structure (deciding how, when, and where you work), being creative, making a difference in other peoples' lives, and erasing the ceiling from your income. You have always been an inspiration to others, and you would passionately love working as a life coach for both children and adults. You enjoy working with both groups...so why not build a business around grownups and the little people? Your angels recommend that you also consider writing nonfiction books (for adults and children), as well as conducting teleseminars and in-person workshops. Practice your channeling every week, and your angels will provide a step-by-step set of instructions for you to develop this business. When things get a little challenging, or seem to be taking too long, just tell yourself: I must—because I can! You will be at the epicenter of a very large ripple effect that will impact many people's lives.

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Dear Kim:
My relationship with my sister-in-law is slowly deteriorating. She constantly says things that I consider negative and mean, and I feel as though I am walking on eggshells when we are around each other. The situation has gotten to the point where I find it really uncomfortable to strike up a conversation with her, or even to sit close to her. I believe that everyone who comes into our lives (including my sister-in-law) is meant to teach us or learn something from us, but I find it difficult to control my emotions and put on a "happy" face when I am clearly bothered by her behavior. I would like to know what I can do to make the situation better for my sake and the sake of my partner. Please help!
Brenda R., 24,
Woodbridge, VA

Dear Brenda:
It’s very troubling and distracting when we encounter problems with family members whom we have to interact with on a regular basis! Frankly, your sister-in-law just doesn’t like you. We all encounter this issue from time to time. You have already extended the hand of friendship on many occasions, and she has, in essence, slapped it away. You are very wise and mature in your understanding of the teacher/student spiritual responsibilities we share with others. Your sister-in-law was supposed to be a spiritual student of yours, and you could have helped her with her self-worth and confidence. However, because she is clearly denying you this opportunity, your angels recommend that you give her a wide berth and get together only when you absolutely have to.

Your partner would rather get the Ebola virus or be kidnapped by aliens than to get mixed up with a conflict between two women that he cares about. If you discuss the situation with him again, it will seem like browbeating. Simply skip the family events that she's involved in when you can, and make an appearance only when it is a command performance, or when you know that she's not going to be there. If the relationship has a chance of improving, you'll be the first to know because her behavior will shift toward you. You have handled this uncomfortable situation with an enormous amount of grace and dignity! Keep up the good work!

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