Dear Kim:
I have been married for almost 8 years to a man I really don't know very well. I have had trust issues with this man (too many to mention) and I would appreciate your insight as to whether I should consider divorcing him. This is my second marriage and I want to believe that he truly loves me, but I find he is cold and unfeeling, and he says that my not being able to trust him is just me being wrong about my intuition. He swears that he is not having an affair.
Kathy D., 45,
Langley, BC, Canada

Dear Kathy:
Sweetie, your biggest issue right now is entitlement! You are in a relationship with someone who is 'cold and unfeeling,' and who doesn't make you feel heard or valued. This situation has progressively gotten worse; so, by now, you know that it isn't going to get any better! I do not "see" your hubby cheating or involved in any other nincompoopery; what you are picking up is intuitive-but, it's related to a series of hurtful past lifetimes with him. I sense, that, although you no longer love him, you get overwhelmed by the thought of being alone again and shouldering all the responsibilities as a single mom.

Our children watch and learn from us (a very scary proposition, I know!) and you're teaching them-through your actions-that it's appropriate to remain in a relationship in which you are not treated with respect or kindness. You were on your own before…so you already know that you can manage. This is not about failing to honor your commitments; it's about you mustering the courage to push away from the table when you have outgrown a particular facet of your existence. Demonstrate the ability to move forward to seek a better quality of life. You and the children will be a lot less lonely outside this miserable marriage. John Wayne, the actor, once said, "Courage is being scared to death, and saddling up anyway."

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Dear Kim:
On September 23, 2005, Rose, my 93-year-old mother-in-law was one of the 23 elderly residents that died in the bus while trying to escape Hurricane Rita. A tragic event. The family is still struggling with her loss and the circumstances of her death. If we could only know that she is okay, and if she blames us for putting her on that ill fated bus.
Diane D., 59
Missouri City, Texas

Dear Diane:
Few of us can even imagine the horror that was experienced as fire swept through that bus! I am channeling with Rose right now, and I am a little surprised to hear her chuckling! She tells me that she was always a strong-willed, no-nonsense woman who worked very hard all of her life; and, like everybody else, her life was very frustrating and challenging at times. She always imagined a peaceful, relaxing, quiet existence in her old age, in which she could just retire from all the hard work and worries and just...be.

She says it was "just her luck" to end this earthly life in a Chinese fire drill to evacuate because of a hurricane, "only to get burned up on the way out of town!" Without pain or physical suffering, her soul popped out of her body long before the flames reached her, and she was able to watch what transpired to her physical shell. She says that she had to laugh, because "what else could I have expected, with a life that was so eventful...that I should have had a peaceful death…?"

Rose explains that it completes a number of difficult issues for her, and because of that, she only has one more earthly lifetime left. She tells me that she does not hold anyone accountable for the way she lived, nor does she hold anyone else accountable for the way that she died. She herself was accountable, "having chosen all of that as my destiny." Insofar as blaming any of the family for telling her that she had to get on that ill fated bus, she responds, "I did what I chose to do. How much did I ever listen to any of you when I was there, anyway?" She chuckles again and then bids me goodbye.

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Dear Kim:
I started a Kazakhstan adoption last summer. My agency said that it would be 4-6 months after paperwork was complete. I finished the paperwork on February 14. My dossier is at the Embassy of Kazakhstan in NY. Now, my agency is saying it may be up to two years! Is there truly a little boy out there for me? What do you think the time frame is? His name will be Sam.
Lisa S., 46,
Bellville, Texas

Dear Lisa:
How utterly exciting for you! I would LOVE to adopt a baby! Women who give birth or adopt over 35 have become the fastest growing group of Moms...around the world! Your agency is warning you about extended time frames because there have been some snags with recent placements. You checked carefully before you chose this particular agency, so don't second guess that decision.

Remember: your angels have been guiding you every step of the way! The adoptive process is clogged with red tape, and fewer numbers of children will be allowed to leave these countries, even though there are many adoptive parents available. However, you will get your baby boy in spring, 2009. In the meantime, remember to bloom where you are! By the way, he is not going to look like a "Sam." Think about the name "Michael." When he arrives, I want to see pictures!

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Dear Kim:
Our son has been diagnosed with a kidney disease called FSG. It's been a year and there doesn't seem to be any real progress of stabilization. He is finishing college and just now getting his life together. He has a wonderful woman in his life, also. My husband and I are wondering if we should bring him home to see a nephrologist that is recommended by our family physician or see alternative medicines. Will he get better or is he destined to have a shortened life?
Sandra L.,
Round Rock, Texas

Dear Sandra:
Your son's angels are telling me that he chose to experience this kidney disease because it was going to help him work through issues that include: patience, blooming where he is, and being able to accept help from others. He is an extraordinary man and is resolving these issues perfectly! He is going to marry the darling, beautiful gal who is in his life and they will have a very happy home.

I am hearing that FSG is sometimes inherited, so your son and his girlfriend might want to consider adoption. The fact is, if he hadn't experienced the rigors of FSG, he wouldn't be the courageous, mature, sensitive, and enlightened man that he is now. He is destined to live many more years, but I do "see" the kidney ailment remaining as a part of his life. It is there as his best teacher.

Some of us have chosen difficult people to be our best teachers, and some of us have chosen ailments or injuries to be our teachers. The stabilization of the disease will come as he prevails with his issues. I also "see" your son's angels connecting him with a holistic healer in Austin, Texas who will help to limit the challenging symptoms. You and your husband have provided an unwavering support system for him, and your son knows how much he is loved and respected by you.

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Dear Kim:
For many years I have been plagued with deep emotional anger toward my sister Treva, who is one year older than me. She's always extremely toxic and mean spirited, and has the ability to tear others down while she stands powerful and influential within the family. I have been seriously considering severing all ties with her. Can you tell me if this is something that I should do and what was the purpose of her being in my life in the first place?
Renee G., 43,
Kailua, Hawaii

Dear Renee:
Why are you allowing someone who drives you crazy to continue upsetting you? Do you really need that in your life? You were supposed to be a teacher for your sister, but she is not accepting of that at all. You might be interested to know that you have been her child in a number of prior earthly lives. This issue has become such a struggle because of all of the family stuff that is involved.

Your hesitation is not about severing ties with your sister; I see that you wouldn't care if she got the Ebola virus and was then kidnapped by unfriendly, scalpel-wielding aliens! It's that you're concerned that once you set those boundaries, Treva is certain to use her 'influence' with the rest of the family and they may likely circle the wagons and shut you out. Like a general in a banana republic, Treva will demand that they chose between you and her.

If your family allows your sister to bully them, which is what you anticipate, you'll be terribly disappointed and once again feel like an unvalued, second class citizen. But...so what?! There's nothing you can do about the decisions other people make. Often, the "family" we create (by making friends who are on their spiritual journey, and can see us for who and what we really are) are much more loyal than the people who share our DNA. If your family chooses to ostracize you, ask your angels to bring soul mates into your life so you can develop a group of positive and supportive "family." What are you waiting for? Sever those ties with your sister now and move on with your life!

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