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June 2005 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
I have had three disastrous relationships. I have finally finished raising four children. Now I've completed all of the prerequisites for nursing school and am waiting to be accepted into the program. At age 53 and after too many starts and stops to count, am I being overly optimistic to believe this start might actually be successful?
Jill H., 53
Austin, Texas
Dear Jill:
The newscaster David Brinkley once said, "A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her." And Winston Churchill, when faced with considerable adversity, used to say, "Keep buggering on."
Ms. Jill---you and I have something in common right now. I have a book proposal submitted to a New York publisher and I'm waiting to hear if they're interested in my latest project. The waiting is incredibly difficult, isn't it? But the key in life is to keep plugging away at one's dreams, because sooner or later (and it's usually later!) they become a reality. We all must remain optimistic about our goals---because if we're not---then who will be?
You can rest assured that you will be accepted into nursing school. What's more, you are going to love the work because it will allow you to make a positive difference in the lives of other people, just as you dream about. Please write and let me know when you get accepted!
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Dear Kim:
My question is about my son. He's 11 years old and overweight. He's a very active boy, hating the indoors and coming inside only when it's dark and we drag him in. He has a healthy appetite, however, he's so active I think that has something to do with how hungry he is. My husband is very hard on him and doesn't want him eating anything that isn't healthy. I want him to lay off and let Max be a kid.
Jane F., 43
Bakersfield, CA
Dear Jane:
Aren't boys wonderful? I'm so glad you wrote to me! Max's angels are telling me that he is perfectly healthy, and is gearing up for a huge growing spurt. And what young man his age isn't hungry all the time? He should be, as active as he is! In fact, I'd be surprised if he wasn't complaining, "there's nothing to eat in this house!" two or three days after you go grocery shopping. (I'm chuckling as I write.)
He's going to grow into an incredibly handsome man, with 6-pack abs, and he's going to be tall---about 6'1" to 6'2". The girls are going to be crazy about him, which I'll bet doesn't surprise you at all. Your son's life's work is to become an actor (much to your husband's chagrin) and travel the world making films that he believes in. No nine-to-five job for him, working in any kind of office, which excludes Max from becoming a physician or attorney.
He's a free spirit and your husband must accept that. His father is one of his authority figures---but that doesn't mean that he will easily bend Max to his will. Max will bristle when someone, no matter how much he loves them, demands certain behavior from him. He likes to be asked to do things---not told. Like any reasonable person, he wants things explained to him, and then he will have a tendency to be very agreeable.
However, he wants to be loved and respected for exactly who he is right now. Not on the condition that he loses weight; which is rather what your husband, with all of his good intentions, indicates with his disapproval. Max is a very sensitive, creative, intelligent young man who is very mature for his age. He will always love to eat, but that won''t effect his weight at all in the future. And as I close, allow me to wish your husband a very Happy Father's Day!
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Dear Kim:
I have been searching for a new job for six months. I have more to offer in a work setting than just selling a product or service---perhaps management. What's up? Is it a timing issue or am I blocking this? I made a detailed list of the experiences I want in this next position. What steps do I need to take?
Ann J., 48
Houston, Texas
Dear Ann:
Your angels have been trying to tell you that a move would make you much happier. As you suspect, you've outgrown Houston (personally and professionally) and in the process, earned the opportunity to move onward and upward. There are three cities that would have outstanding possibilities for you: Austin, Texas; Seattle, Washington; and Portland, Oregon.
You must register with a headhunter that services those areas, as well as consider getting a subscription to the Sunday edition of the newspapers so you can check out the weekly job listings. If you start to pursue a new job now, your life could be dramatically different by the end of the year. Break a leg, kiddo! I'm rooting for you!
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Kim O'Neill
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Spring, Texas 77388
kim@kimoneillpsychic.com
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