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June 2006 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
I am a great fan of yours and after reading your book about spiritual destiny I became more excited about this area. I have been looking for a spiritual master who could guide me in my spiritual growth. What is the mission of my life?
Vivek B., 35
Lucknow, India
Dear Vivek:
I am honored that you wrote to me. You are on the earthly plane to assume leadership responsibilities working in the capacity of a guardian angel; it is you who will become a spiritual teacher for many. Your mission is to serve the women in your country who have no source of sustenance, and the malnourished, needy children who live in orphanages that are sub-standard. You will offer aid and assistance to the poor by encouraging others to share their abundance with those the rest of the world has forgotten. God bless you in your efforts.
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Dear Kim:
I have a question concerning my father. He recently turned 76. Last year he was diagnosed with pneumonia and pleurisy--but then it was determined he had prostate cancer. He was told he would never walk again. After a bone scan, he was told it was the most cancer they had ever seen in a person. The doctors did not even consider chemotherapy because the cancer was too far advanced, but they did do a few radiation treatments to keep the largest tumors on his spine from completely paralyzing his legs.
Throughout all of this ordeal, my father's attitude was fantastic. Now, he's walking, has no pain, great appetite, and feels very well. The doctors are quite astounded! Can you tell me more about this amazing turn of events and what my family should learn from this?
Teresa M., 44
Glen Haven, Wisconsin
Dear Teresa:
Who says there are no modern miracles? The illnesses that ravaged your Dad's body (but obviously not his spirit!) occurred to teach him about patience, as well as an issue I have written about before in this column: learning to bloom where he is. That means choosing to remain calm, centered, and balanced no matter how stressful or frightening things become.
His destiny was not to pass away from the cancer at that time, although it certainly appeared that way, didn't it? But remember, appearances can be very deceiving. Although you and the rest of the family said many prayers for him and offered tremendous support, the real healing was conducted by your Dad himself. He's always been a can-do, stiff-upper-lip, I'm-going-to-play-the-cards-cosmically-dealt-to-me-without-whining kind of guy; so once the medical community declared him a goner, he decided he wasn't going to go down without a fight. He has military-like focus and determination when he makes up his mind about something.
Your Dad decided to try to heal himself because he had nothing to lose and everything to gain. So while this kind of diagnosis often paralyzes others, it served to mobilize your father to fight with everything he had. And your Dad has considerable inner strength and courage. He has time left on this plane, and you can rest assured that he is going to make the most of it! Happy Father's Day to your Dad---what an amazing man! He should write a book teaching others how to stand strong in the face of grave circumstances. He's an authority on the subject!
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Dear Kim:
My daughter has been with her fiancé for six years. She recently took a job in another state while he stayed here to finish college. I believe this will be a big challenge for them as she is committed to at least two years in this position and he still has two years to complete college. I am afraid the relationship will not survive the long distance. I am also worried that she will be deeply hurt if they should break up and I will be too far away to comfort her in any real way.
Michele G., 48
Katy, Texas
Dear Michele:
MOM! YOU CAN TRUST ME! YOURE UNECESSARILY WORRYING! Your daughter was absolutely brilliant to take the important new job. She is smart, creative, courageous, independent, empowered, confident, and has good self-esteem. Aren't those a few of the qualities that you tried to instill when she was growing up?
She believes that her fiancé---who supported her move, by the way---has the maturity to weather the distance between them. Your daughter and future son-in-law are both willing to sacrifice now for a wonderful quality of life later. He doesn't want to stand in the way of her success and achievement after she's worked so hard to get where she is. He has great ambitions, too, that she encourages.
They will get married but they want to wait until he has finished his education. The "kids" are acting with maturity, wisdom, and enlightenment. You should invite your daughter's Mr. Wonderful to dinner as often as you can while she's gone. Your baby is a big girl now and she is making all the right decisions. You've done a wonderful job in raising her. Now, it's time to turn the focus more to YOU and your future!
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Dear Kim:
I hope you can answer my prayers. I pray that one day I can have a really unique relationship with someone. I am still married though. My husband is Jerry, he is 57, with cirrhosis of the liver and hasn't stopped drinking, just slowed down a bit. We have two kids together: 13 and 16 year old boys. The only relationship him and I have are the kids and that's all. Sometimes I think that I should go out and meet someone and enjoy myself. I'm really stuck, damned if I do and damned if I don't. I hope you see something good.
Teresa H., 46
Louisville, Kentucky
Dear Teresa:
Your situation is really very simple. You don't like, love, respect, or trust your husband, so I'm going to confirm something that you already know. The solution is a divorce. Let me be frank: Jerry isn't going to die any time soon, like you've been wondering. And, lovely Teresa, if you were really inclined to cheat, you wouldn't be talking about it, you'd be doing it.
So, good for you! You ARE making good choices. Canoodling with someone else would only complicate your life right now. In the meantime, take a nice, long bath; allow yourself a good cry for everything you've been through with Jerry; tell yourself that you're still young, talented, bright, and desirable; eat as much good chocolate as you can get your hands on---however, if I might quote Miss Piggy: "don't eat more than you can lift".
When you're really, truly ready to move on with your life, you must:
1) Get the best paying job you can find,
2) Ask Jerry to find another place to live,
3) File for divorce,
4) Continue being the best mother you can be.
While we both know that you could go to a bar tonight and meet someone, I fully believe that you understand that he wouldn't be the kind of man that you're really looking for. The new relationship will come only after you have done the work on YOU. Your life needs an extreme make-over, and you are the only one who can do it.
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