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June 2007 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
About a year and a half ago my husband asked me to move out. I just recently have a new place but have only stayed there once. His best friend, his wife, and their child will be moving in with my husband. I don't trust the situation at all. I feel as if our marriage will not be able to survive after they move in. For the past year and a half I have been accused of cheating. He gives me the cold shoulder the majority of the time and he rarely says he loves me or will hardly kiss me. I feel he is easily persuaded by others' opinions. Am I wrong about my feelings?
Kim, 27,
Houston, Texas
Dear Kim:
My question to you is, why are you still there?! Your husband has made his feelings and preferences quite clear. He wants out of the relationship! He has already moved on, and he is entitled to do so! There is nothing left to "survive," and the sooner you accept that, the sooner your life will move forward!
At this point, a divorce is just a legal formality. The emotional and spiritual divorce took place some time ago, didn't it? Start to live your own life by acknowledging that the marriage was supposed to be a necessary learning experience. By clinging to the romantic past that you two shared, you're insisting on making the lesson much more difficult than it was intended to be! This is the time to create a brand new life...on your own!
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Dear Kim:
My son has recently gotten into some legal trouble, and I am very worried that he may end up doing jail time as a result. I am worrying myself sick over this--can you tell me what his outcome will be? Will he turn his life around? I want so badly for him to be productive and happy.
Sandra, 50,
Houston, Texas
Dear Sandra:
First of all, quit worrying! That will only make the situation harder to deal with...and ruin your quality of life in the meantime. (I know that what I'm asking is easier in theory than in practice...I'm a Mom, too, and it's VERY hard not to worry about our babies...no matter how old they are!)
Your son is likely to be incarcerated (that's what you're sensing and that's why you are so worried) because he often asks the universe--through the choices he makes--to help him learn the hard way. Realistically, there is nothing you can do to influence the choices/decisions your son makes, so stop advising him. Instead, choose to remain as balanced and centered as possible, which will enable you to provide him with steady, unwavering support and encouragement.
Lead by example and allow your son to learn from the choices that YOU make. The positive news is that your son is a fast study once he's hit over the head (figuratively speaking, of course). He'd be happiest in his own landscaping business. (So that he wouldn't be stuck indoors, which he would hate; and, so that he wouldn't be trapped working for someone else--which he would also hate!) Have faith that your darling son has a very bright future.
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Dear Kim:
My husband and I moved to Texas from Pennsylvania in September of 2005 to be near my son, daughter-in-law, and three beautiful young granddaughters. My husband's job situation has not worked out. We recently invested a lot of money in buying trucking equipment and it seems to have been a terrible mistake. We are trying to sell it without much luck, and feel we may have to sell our house as we are in a difficult financial position. We don't know which way to go..as we have lost all faith in our ability to make decisions.
Terri H., 53,
Magnolia, Texas
Dear Terri:
Your angels directed you to the trucking equipment business because it has allowed you and your hubby to work through some difficult issues in a relatively short period of time. Now that the issues are all resolved (good work!) you'll be able to sell the equipment. Interestingly, you'd be able to unload the stuff on eBay.
First, however, you MUST shift your thinking from negative to positive. After what's happened, how the hell do you do that? Apply the principles from the book, The Secret. NOW! RIGHT NOW!
By the way, beautiful Ms. Terri: consider flipping houses as a type of work you would love. Your independence, empowerment, and confidence is going to soar. You will be more successful working on your own, outside of business endeavors with your hubby. You need something of your very own.
You did the right thing by moving to Texas. You are absolutely in the right place...and this is the right time! Start to envision your life as a series of opportunities...rather than a series of setbacks and mistakes. Without those learning experiences, you wouldn't be were you are now--ready to cross the threshold into the happiest chapter of your life!
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Dear Kim:
I have been divorced for five years, have two wonderful sons, a decent--but terribly stressful--job, and am lacking only one thing: a true life partner. There's a friend of mine who I've always felt connected to, but he's married and I wouldn't dream of a relationship with him unless he were single. I believe he feels the same way about me. Is there any possibility there? If not, do you see anyone I will want to spend the rest of my life with?
Nancy F.,
Conroe, Texas
Dear Nancy:
I feel so happy for you! You have worked very hard on your issues, and have reached a lovely level of enlightenment, wisdom, and maturity. The man you feel connected to isn't available emotionally, so you have nothing to look forward to there...which you already suspect. (You feel the connection and chemistry with him because of past-life relationships.)
You're going to meet the perfect guy for you as early as August of this year; and, you're going to meet him where you get your hair done, so be sure to get dolled up when you go in! Mr. Wonderful is around 53, blue eyes, divorced, about 6'2', light color hair--and he is ready for a soul mate relationship. He is going to be very close to your sons, and you will adore his (grown) children. Tell your hair dresser to be on the lookout!
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