Dear Kim:
My husband and I were considering buying a nearby house (knowing it would be a major fixer-upper) but I hesitated because something about the place creeped me out and I dreaded the thought of having to clean up someone else's mess. Before I could get my head together, a professional home-flipper made a deal with the late owner's daughter and now every improvement he makes just sends me into pits of despair more convinced than ever that I let a golden opportunity slip through our fingers. I can't seem to stop punishing myself with thoughts that it should have been ours and it's my fault we didn't get it. Did I make a huge mistake?
Cynthia D., 37,
Houston, Texas

Dear Cynthia:
If you continue like this, both you and your hubby will be in therapy and munching Valium like jellybeans! You're making him crazy! "We should-we shouldn't-we should-we shouldn't-we should-etc., etc." You have already decided that you want to own your own business, correct? You have already decided that working with your hubby is a good idea, correct? You have already decided that flipping is something you two would enjoy and really be good at, correct? You are both hard workers, correct? You are both trustworthy, correct? You will both carry your individual end of the apple cart to consistently rise to the occasion for one another, correct? This angst has nothing to do with the "professional home flipper," nor the property that got away. This is all about you!

Endlessly worrying about the process is resulting in a serious case of Buyer's Remorse Hysteria. Start making your life (and your darling hubby's) much easier. Trust your hubby to find a flip property completely on his own. Trust him to negotiate for the property. DO NOT SECOND GUESS HIS DECISION. Then, once he closes on the house, go visit the property for the first time and allow your creativity to run wild.

Sweetheart, you just need to look at flipping with a completely different perspective. Think of a flip property as a female friend who has just gone through a hideous divorce with a real schlemiel and who is in dire need of a makeover! She (the property) has really let herself go, and now she's ready to reach her full potential...but she needs your help to do so. Once you've completed the first house and it sells, you're going to relax and really enjoy the business. Flipping will allow you and your hubby to build the (financial) life of your dreams.

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Dear Kim:
There is an old boyfriend that keeps crossing my path. Will we be together in the near future?
Brucelle K., 67,
Houston, Texas

Dear Brucelle:
No, ma'am! This fella would not make you happy. Your angels keep maneuvering this man into your life to give you a sporadic reality check. Your angels are trying to tell you, "Look at how much further ahead you are than your old friend! He hasn't changed much at all since the days when you two were together! Acknowledge how much you've grown in this lifetime because of your willingness to face adversity with courage and strength. Celebrate your spiritual progress!" Your angels are not being judgmental about your old boyfriend; they simply wanted to give you a reality check as to how spiritually productive your life has been.

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Dear Kim:
I try to communicate with my angels but it is hard for me. I have a baby 10 months old and I don't sleep very well. Can you ask my angels to contact me so I can communicate with them?
Silvia S., 39
Alexandria, VA

Dear Silvia:
You have 16 angels working with you right now. Rory, Kelly, Arlene, David, Harry, Myrna, and Robert provide the lion's share of your angelic information. They speak with you all the time, but you are not differentiating between what is coming from them and what is coming from your head. That is a very common challenge. They ask that you invest ˝ hour per week to speak with them in a quiet environment with no distractions. We all have a better time of day in which to channel. The best time of day for you to really "hear" them is from midnight to 7:00am.

Plan your private chats with them one day a week for ˝ hour anytime during those hours. Get a notebook and make it a habit to write down what your angels are telling you. From time to time, review your channeling journal and it will prove that many of the things you've written down have come into reality. That will really boost your confidence. This is the perfect time to work on your ability because the universe has wonderful things in store for you and your little one. Your angels will provide a weekly to-do list to allow you to move forward as easily and quickly as possible. Start practicing now and remember that we are all a work in progress. Your channeling ability will be only as good as the time you invest in it!

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Dear Kim:
I have been in a relationship for almost 7 years with plans to marry in August. He has custody of his 2 children (one he thinks isn't his) with issues of their mother and grandmother that interferes with a harmonious family unit for us. My heart tells me that he is my soul mate but this little voice tells me this isn't a lasting type of relationship. I really do love M and I am happy now. I divorced 9 years ago ending a one sided relationship and I don't want to repeat my mistakes. Should I go on with our plans, or should I wait for whatever there is?
Diane C., 42,
Brownsburg, Indiana

Dear Diane:
I am SO glad that you wrote to me! I can see that you care for M and that he cares for you, too. However, one of the reasons that your angels believe you have hung in there all these years and are still with him now is because you fear that a true Mr. Wonderful might not come along; and although this relationship is stressful, it is better than no relationship at all. That "little voice" is coming directly from your angels. And I don't think it's your heart that's telling you he's a soul mate, I think it's another part of your anatomy. You are not madly in love with M.

Your angels tell me that since you were a little girl, you've dreamed about having a heart, mind, body, and soul relationship. If you marry M, then you're giving the universe mixed messages. By your actions, you are saying, "I'm okay with settling for less of a relationship than I am entitled to, and I'm willing to place all of my romantic dreams on the back burner for as long as this marriage lasts." You are already sensing that this will not be a long term marriage. Even if his ex-wife and mother-in-law were not in the picture, you wouldn't be happy. You're headed for another divorce.

By the way, I "see" that both children are his biologically. You must ask yourself a question: why have you devoted so much of your time, energy, and affection with a man who is clearly not what you're looking for? Are you hiding out in this romance because it takes so long to meet a Mr. Wonderful? Are you perhaps afraid of falling in love with a real Mr. Wonderful and then being dismissed or rejected for not being good enough? Ponder this, break off the engagement with M, and start moving forward in a direction that has the potential to really make you happy!

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Dear Kim:
I think my brother committed suicide a few months ago. Although I can talk about him without crying, I cannot look at his picture without getting so angry at him! I "tell" him that he had so much to live for and why did he leave, etc., until I realize that suicide has always been on my mind as well. I even had a plan until my brother started to have problems and now he's gone. And I have never-ever-told a soul about my thoughts. Am I angry because he left first or do I genuinely feel that there is always something worth living for? My brother was 45.
Martha, 54,
Texas

Dear Martha:
Thank you for sharing your feelings with me. I value your trust. And, I'm so sorry about your darling brother. I am "hearing" that he did commit suicide. He had planned the suicide for some time, because like you, he did not grasp his full potential or what he could have made of his life. He was also not thinking rationally about how his decision was going to hurt others.

Your angels tell me that you are angry because of the potential that you saw in him and how he has thrown all of that away. In addition, you are angry because your brother made you feel less lonely on the earthly plane...and now he has deserted you. Your brother has been communicating with you trying to convey that you have so much to live for and for you to avoid the same mistake that he made!

Your angels are telling me that you both had some pretty serious childhood issues to deal with, and that it would be of great benefit to you to consider therapy with someone who could understand your plight. Healing from your childhood could open a door for you into a brand new chapter of your life…one that you would feel is worth living. It's the one step you can take to save your life. If you can't find someone in your area, please contact my office for a referral. An existence full of peace and contentment is right in front of you.

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