Dear Kim:
I received a reading from you back in January and you've been right on the money (THANK YOU). Unexpected events have surfaced recently concerning my ex-husband. He's in and out of jail at least every two months, and CPS is not taking action against the abuse. The oldest is finally with me full time. Is it really going to take two more years to get my babies with me forever? Do my angels see something immediate happening in this situation?
Kelli T., 45
Dayton, Texas

Dear Kelli:
In spite of the fact that your ex is bouncing in and out of jail like the facility has a revolving door, the courts are not going to grant you full custody. But, your ex-hubby is extremely likely to make a VERY unfortunate choice (unrelated to the children, thank God) before the end of this year-which will result in his being incarcerated long term. At that point, the children will come to live with you full time; and, in essence, this man who has been such a wonderful spiritual teacher will be out of your lives forever.

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Dear Kim:
We have a serious problem that I have never seen addressed in your column. We suspect that the mother of our son's child is abusing this child. We also suspect that she leaves him alone at night while she goes out to party. Our son wants custody of his child, but he is afraid that he will lose in court, that the mother will then take his child out of state, and that we'll never see this child again. The mother is mentally unbalanced and has wide swings in her emotional behavior. Everyone in the family has become afraid of her. We feel desperate for this eight-year-old grandson. What should we do? By the way, three years ago, I visited you for a reading. Your advice was quite good.
Susan S., 60,
Smithville, Texas

Dear Susan:
What I am "hearing" is that the woman in question has a narcissistic, me-me-me kind of personality and is extremely immature. Those are only two of the reasons why your son is no longer sharing a relationship with her. Does she love her eight-year-old son? Yes, absolutely; although, the way she cares for him is very different than the way that you have mothered your children. You and the other family members are correct in assuming that she would not respond well to some kind of ultimatum; very few individuals react to an emotional confrontation in a positive fashion. As you suspect, your son would clearly be the better parent.

However, if your son took the boy's mother to court, he would not win full custody; and, the ex would respond by doing everything possible to make his life a living hell. Trust me: there is a lot more that she could do to make that happen! Getting into a lengthy dissertation about how unfair this situation is would be a complete waste of time-because very few events or circumstances on the earthly plane involve fairness!

So, why doesn't your son get together with his ex and make her a brilliant offer that she can't refuse? A pragmatic, practical compromise, of sorts, such as a substantial alimony check every month that is DOUBLE her current child support payment (in lieu of the support payment, of course) for allowing the darling boy to spend more time with his father—until the boy is old enough to legally decide where he wants to live?

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Dear Kim:
I am a mother of two. I am in the middle of a second divorce. I am involved with a very special man from my past and everything is going very well. I am very much in love with him but I can't seem to stop wondering what my husband is up to. I don't love him anymore, but I feel the need to find things out about him, why can't I just let go?
Donna C., 48,
Burlington, NJ

Dear Donna:
Let's begin by discussing your ex husband. He no longer interests you…but you don't like the idea of him entering into a relationship with anyone else. But, the bigger part of what is going on involves the fact that you two came together to learn from one another. To your credit, you learned everything (spiritually and emotionally) that you were supposed to from him, which you know. You are far more enlightened, wise, and mature than when you first met him, correct? Good work!

However, you were also supposed to be a spiritual teacher for him, and he failed to learn everything that you had to teach. So, your soul continues to mourn for the lost opportunity to help him evolve. Simply ask your soul to stop its mourning…and the curiosity/interest will likely disappear! In regard to your current boyfriend: do NOT marry this man. It was destined for you to meet; but, please understand that he is another romantic student for you, and that's why you feel so compelled to be with him. In time you will realize this and save yourself from another divorce. Sit tight and stay single...Mr. Wonderful is coming when you're in your early fifties. After all, haven't you earned a heart, mind, body, and soul relationship from all of the hard work that you've courageously done on self?

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Dear Kim:
I would like to know what to do to help my 17 year old daughter. She has nightmares and often sleeps with the light on. She says she sees herself being hit in the back and she doesn't see who. She also has trouble hearing with left ear and some on right. What can I do for her? Doctors don't seem to do anything.
Tracy J., 41,
Fort Valley, Georgia

Dear Tracy:
I am so glad that you took the time to write! Your beautiful daughter's dilemma is connected to a past lifetime. It is completely unrelated to the present, and that is probably why the doctors with whom you've consulted haven't identified or diagnosed the problem. Your daughter has been experiencing actual past-life flashbacks because she is presently in the process of resolving the emotional issues that she started in a prior incarnation.

What happened in the past life: your daughter was a young woman married to a titled, well-to-do man, who was an abusive control freak. After less than a year of marriage, she decided against subjecting herself to any more of his mental, emotional, and physical cruelty, and decided to return to her family. Unfortunately, the night before she was to leave, she told him about her plans. Late that night, as she slept-alone-he stole into her room and in a fury, bludgeoned her over the head and on her back until he believed she was dead. He wrapped her comatose, bloody body inside a blanket and carried her to a lake on the estate. There, he dumped her into the water and watched her sink below the surface. He walked away without a backward glance, prepared to tell the servants and the neighbors that she had drowned while going for a midnight swim.

In reality, however, the chilly water revived her for a few moments, but her injuries made it impossible for her to save herself. She drowned in the cold lake shortly thereafter. Tracy, your daughter will eventually grow out of these issues; but, if she had the opportunity to visit with a hypnotherapist who could regress her back to those series of events, it would serve as a fast forward button with this healing. The issues that she is now clearing up (that she began in that prior lifetime) include independence, empowerment, self reliance, and setting appropriate boundaries. I'll wager that she is already making amazing headway in all of those areas!


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