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July 2006 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
I have been divorced for seven years and have had relationships that always end in disappointment. I thought I had finally found a committed relationship only to find that after a year of being with my boyfriend, that he was obsessed with a relationship that ended 4 years prior and involved her marrying another man. As soon as she called him to say that she made a mistake, he instantly ended it with me and is now back with her. What am I doing wrong?
Jennifer S., 38
Montgomery, Texas
Dear Jennifer:
Honey, all of the stars in the heavens are shining down upon you. Your ex-boyfriend has skedaddled back to the gal with whom he really has something in common. They deserve one another! Neither one of them can commit to anything more meaningful than the time it takes to have a coffee at Starbuck's! He was never meant to be a Mr. Wonderful for you; in that relationship (and I use the term loosely) you learned a lot more about what you are entitled to in a healthy relationship.
Now your romantic benchmark is a lot higher, isn't it? So, when your ex calls you again--which he will--be ready to give him a firm, but classy "no thank you." Be strong and resolute about not settling for less than what you deserve. About two years from now, you're going to marry a great guy you meet through work, and he'll be utterly devoted to you and your daughter.
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Dear Kim:
My question has to do with my sister, Adriana, who lives in Buenos Aires, Argentina. After having a horseback riding accident she had surgeries on her back and now lives with unbearable pain. Every doctor she has been to says there is nothing else they can do. How can I help her? What is it that she needs to do to heal?
Ana Paula F., 25
Houston, Texas
Dear Ana Paula:
Your sister's situation is a good reality check for the rest of us who think we have problems! I received a very succinct answer for you. Part of what Adriana is physically dealing with is scar tissue from the surgeries, several pinched nerves, and what appears to be a plastic or metal foreign object that was fused to her back during one of the operations that makes movement excruciating. There is an orthopedic surgeon in the Houston medical center who could help her. Then, she needs a series of acupuncture treatments. Call my office and I'll share the information your angels have provided.
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Dear Kim:
No disrespect, but how can "Mr. Wonderful" always be right around the corner for every single woman in your columns? Is a soul mate really possible for everyone? Why is there so much divorce? Is everyone really that stupid about hooking up with people who are not meant for them? Do I sound bitter? Really I'm not, I'm just incredibly heartbroken and tired of trying.
Wouldn't it be kinder to be honest with some of these women and tell them that there is no Mr. Wonderful this time around? NOT having a soul mate in this life is definitely not the worst thing that can happen to a woman! Loving relationships of all kinds are possible without a woman ever getting married to her soul mate, you know. I would rather know the truth and get on with life...rather than go to sleep disappointed and lonely every night hanging on to something that has never happened.
Elaine H., 46
Houston, Texas
Dear Elaine:
You know who you remind me of?! ME--before my Mr. Wonderful came along! Even though my angels were telling me repeatedly that he was coming, when ten long years dragged by after my divorce, I began to lose faith. So, although I channel as a life's work, no one was more surprised than I was when it really happened!
It is true that some people do not have a destiny involving a soul mate; therefore, when I channel for those individuals, I tell them so with the same candor I employ with all of my psychic information. I believe the reason behind so many divorces these days is because we get involved with relationships that are learning experiences, to help us become more mature and enlightened so that we eventually become capable of carrying on a heart, mind, body, and soul relationship.
I certainly agree with you, Elaine, about the importance of developing loving relationships of all kinds--with or without a soul mate. What's more, I'm the first to admit that it's a discouraging, miserable, demoralizing, confusing, and depressing struggle to romantically survive as you hold out for that special person to come along. However, once that miracle finally takes place--you'll quickly realize that it was worth every second of the lonely wait.
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