Dear Kim:
I went out with someone for almost 3 years and after he enlisted and left to training for the Army in 2005 I broke up with him because I thought it wouldn't work out and I had also just began my first year in college. A few months later I met someone in college and we started to go out and after almost 4 years we broke up because he was scared he wasn't living life. The irony is that last year in 2008 I enlisted and left for training for the Army. My ex-boyfriend who is in the military and I are friends and we always talk. We have so many things in common and I love that but I don't know why I'm scared to go back with him. As of now he is deployed in Afghanistan and I'm happy that he will come back soon. He tells me he still loves me after 4 years that we broke up and I don't know what to do. My recent ex-boyfriend wants to be my friend but I feel like he just wants to be close to me in case he doesn't find the person he is looking for while he is "living life." He's a really nice guy and I enjoy his company but I don't know why I miss him so much after hurting me the way he did. He tells me he loves me but doesn't want to be with me and that he just wants to be my friend. I just wish I knew what to do because this confusion has been killing me for a long time.
Elizabeth U., 21,
Union City, NJ

Dear Elizabeth:
You are a perfect example of someone who listens to her instincts and therefore protects herself from a lot of grief! The boyfriend who broke up with you because he wants to "live life" needs to do just that—without you there to comfort, support, and encourage him. He wants it both ways, without having to step up to the plate and give you an even exchange of energy! In other words—he is much more interested in what you can do for him than what he can do for you. Your angels tell me that you don't really miss him, but you feel a stunning loss of what you thought the relationship could be. Cut him loose.

The other guy (in Afghanistan) isn't right for you, either—which you already know. These two are decent guys, but not Mr. Wonderful. For now, you should be focusing on your job in the Army.

And, have you ever thought about your own business? Consider an online business that you could start while you're in the service, because you're not going to be in the military long term. (Your angels tell me that you joined the military because you didn't know what else to do.) Mr. Wonderful is destined to come into your life when you are twenty-five; and, by that time, you could have a successful business of your own

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Dear Kim:
I would like to know if our decision to place our 15 year-old son, Sean, in the "Lycèe International Montessori" in Bailly this September is a good decision.
Gràinne M., 47,
Paris, France

Dear Gràinne:
It is one of the best decisions you have ever made as a parent. At Lycée, Sean will be expected to meet and exceed academic goals that are quite a bit more stringent than the schools he has been attending. He will meet lifelong friends who will encourage him to reach his full potential academically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. He is going to mature before your eyes in a relatively short period of time. Sean will truly thank you for this extraordinary opportunity; and in the future, he and his wife will enroll your grandchildren there as well!

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Dear Kim:
I have, I believe, met my second love. His name is Michael E. and he lives in NYC. He asked me to marry him last week and I'm planning on moving to the Bronx this summer. Please tell me I'm on track and haven't completely lost my mind.
Cary S., 48,
Houston, TX

Dear Cary:
Finding a Mr. Wonderful is like winning the romantic version of the lottery…which you have done! Michael is a real pussycat who has been searching for you all of his life. He is going to make a wonderful husband, best friend, lover, confidant, and spiritual playmate. He is creative, sensitive, brilliant, funny, and has integrity. Nothing but glorious times ahead. You would have been certifiable had you not followed your heart and soul to pursue this long-standing dream. The two of you have shared many lifetimes in heart, mind, body, and soul relationships and that's one of the reasons that there is so much amazing chemistry, and the romance was able to move forward so quickly. I want to see pictures of this darling guy!

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Dear Kim:
My problem is I am being evicted from my apartment in Illinois. My mother is moving to Houston, Texas, this month and she thinks it'll be best if I follow her. I followed her last year to Rockford, Illinois, and it's been horrible. I want to be independent and make my own decisions but I seem to make so many mistakes. I am a single mother and my son will be five at the end of August so he will be going to kindergarten this semester coming up, but I don't know where to live.

I could fight to stay in my apartment longer while I look for another place in Rockford but I have no family here. Or, I can move to Houston and start over again in a new area. Also, my boyfriend Studge doesn't want me to go. He says he can help me but what if we don't work out? If you can offer any insight to my situation I would greatly appreciate it.
Brittany B., 21,
Rockford, Ill

Dear Brittany:
I'm so glad you wrote in to me! Let's wade through all of your dilemmas one by one. First, you must stop criticizing yourself. That is an example of sabotaging head talk that is only going to make you more fearful and confused. You haven't made any mistakes—you've been attracting valuable learning experiences like everybody else.

Second, being evicted from an apartment you hate is a blessing. The universe is trying to tell you to move to Houston with your Mom. You have a son to think about, and Mom will help you get on your feet. Enroll your child in a Houston school (think about the Klein or Cy-Fair School districts) and stop second-guessing your decisions. Studge (I'm actually afraid to ask where he got that nickname) is not a long-term boyfriend, which you already suspect. So, break up with him, pack your stuff and head south where brand new, terrific opportunities are waiting you, your Mom, and your son!


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