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September 2005 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
My husband and I moved to Houston in 2000 due to a relocation. It has been a big change, but we have adjusted and it has been a great place to raise small kids compared to the East Coast where we moved from. Are we meant to stay here forever? Also, I have managed to start a small graphic design/communications business from my home. I feel I am at a crossroads. I could work at building it up and doing something with it, but that would involve putting my 4 year old son in day care much of the time. I've tried to meditate and pray to get an answer, but I always end up feeling just as confused and uncertain as ever!
Susan K., 37
Houston, Texas
Dear Susan:
You and your family will be relocating again within the next two years to the West Coast. (Through your hubby's job.) You'll be very happy there.
In the meantime, since the family can get along on your husband's paycheck, your angels recommend that you put your design business on the back burner, and stay home with your son. You'll never have that precious time back again---which you know---and you can ALWAYS build a business! You're on the right track with that business, by the way; and after your youngest is in kindergarten, it's going to be very successful.
The reason the success has been rather modest so far is because your heart isn't in it. Once the little man is in kindergarten, your angels recommend that you jump-start your business with a vengeance here in Texas, and then move your base of operations to California...where you'll be even more successful. Break a leg!
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Dear Kim:
Recently my husband stopped working, and is trying to get disability. He is home all the time and I rarely have any privacy. He doesn't respect my need for it, and we argue about it. I feel like the essence of what makes me a person is fading away, along with my ability to talk with my angels. I am becoming depressed about my dreams for the future, because I believe my husband's possessiveness will destroy any possibility of reaching them. I feel trapped and don't see a way out, because I believe he would do his best to ruin my life if I were to leave, as he has threatened in the past. He has been extremely sweet lately and I'm just playing along as if this shallow life is all I need because I'm sick of the arguments that go nowhere.
Judy C., 46
St. Louis, MO
Dear Judy:
When I received your letter, I HAD to answer it. The man you live with is not going to be one of my nominations for Husband of the Year. Of course he's being sweet right now---you're doing exactly what he wants! With his controlling and manipulating manner, he is killing your spirit, just the same as if he were taking a knife and destroying your physical body. You wouldn't just sit there and allow him to do that, would you? Of course not!
Your husband will never change unless he undergoes some serious therapy---and we both know he isn't going to consider that. So, you have to ask yourself two questions: Is he your father...or your husband? Are you a child...or a grown women? If you picked door #2 on both counts, you already know what to do! Get out of there---NOW---before there's nothing left of you.
You're still a young woman with plenty of life to live. If you're wondering why you've become so complacent, it's because you're about to face some serious transition and that's scary for anyone. But it's even scarier to think of the emotional and spiritual consequences you'll be facing in that marriage five years from now. Plus, I might point out that your husband can't ruin your life if you leave---he's already done that! It can't get any worse than it is. You have no where to go but up!
Get your cute fanny out there and secure a job, and then once you've done that---it's time to get an apartment and say "Hasta la vista" to your old life, and start afresh...on your terms for once! You can do it---you have to for your own survival.
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Dear Kim:
In May, my oldest daughter committed suicide and she left behind a beautiful baby girl. As I have learned, she was in an abusive relationship. I haven't been allowed to see my granddaughter Dee Dee because the boyfriend hasn't been responding to my inquiries. I am worried about the welfare of my granddaughter and I would like to know if she is all right. I have a deep feeling that the boyfriend knows more about what happened to my daughter than what he is telling me. I want to know what happened.
John Y., 50
Washington State
Dear John:
I am so very sorry about your loss. You've lost your daughter---and now it feels as if you've also lost your darling granddaughter. The angels tell me that your daughter's death was a suicide, and although her boyfriend was abusive, he was in no way responsible for her passing. The boyfriend wants to disappear with Dee Dee and have nothing to do with you or any of your family.
Your angels are strongly recommending that you hire an attorney, and pursue the father legally before he turns Dee Dee over to foster care, which is a possibility. Believe it or not, you may very likely end up as the guardian of this beautiful child because caring for her is going to be too much for her father to handle.
The boyfriend will receive help from his family, so Dee Dee is safe and secure for now. Although there is no question that the little honeymuffin is the boyfriend's biological child, she would benefit tremendously from growing up with you. I wish you all the best!
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