|
September 2006 - Ask Kim Column
Dear Kim:
My wife is going down a very dark path in her life. Is she my soul mate? If yes, than I will endure to the end and be by her side to help her. Is there someone else better situated to help her through this time? Please understand that I love my wife with all my heart, mind, and soul. The problem I am having wrestling with this is truly great.
K.J.
Houston, Texas
Dear K.J.:
Your wife is not a soul mate; but, you were destined to meet, fall in love, and marry. The relationship was supposed to be a valuable learning experience for both of you. As your new wife, she was to help you fight for the custody of your daughter--her stepchild--and you were to help her with alcoholism.
However, your patience and love for your wife has been stretched to the breaking point, and her spiritually unattractive behavior is chipping away at your love for her. She needs therapy NOW for the addiction, and unless she really commits to sobriety, the marriage will continue to crumble and you will get a divorce.
The ball is in her court, and I sense that you are not going to wait around forever in the hopes that she will accept accountability for her drinking. Nor should you! Avoid focusing on the relationship you two used to have because that chapter of your lives is closed forever...and the memories will only serve to haunt and depress you. Instead, focus on your darling daughter. If your wife hasn’t started her healing process with regular therapy sessions by the end of the year, you’ll feel that you can’t go on any longer and the decision to split will be the obvious choice.
----------------------------------------------------------
Dear Kim:
After my layoff from HP, I decided to go to trade school to learn a new career in the medical field. With much financial struggle, I managed to graduate with honors and found employment with a cancer practice. I thought it was a good position for me as well as a new beginning. I contracted a staph infection either from the practice or the hospital. I missed three days of work and was fired via email. I was not given a reason for my termination. My question is what am I doing wrong? Why can I not find a fulfilling job? I feel like every time I get a break, it’s really a kick in the behind. I feel hopeless.
Martha R., 39
Houston, Texas
Dear Martha:
You’ve been given a huge gift from your guardian angels! That working environment was absolutely toxic for you emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. You were fired because of angelic intervention and you can thank your lucky stars! It’s not that you weren’t capable enough to handle that job---it’s that the job wasn’t enough for you!
Dr. Kim recommends that you eat a pound of good chocolate and take a walk by the seashore (preferably both at the same time) to let go of the “why-poor-me-after-all-my hard-work-haven’t-I-done-everything-I-was-supposed-to-do?” wallowing. Then, get back out there and find a job in the medical community that is of your caliber.
You realize that your angels directed you to go to medical trade school, right? So, muster some faith as well as some patience! A job is waiting for you in which you’ll be able to make a difference in other people’s lives. That’s what would make your heart and soul sing. Go, honey, go! And I want to hear all about it, so don’t forget to email a juicy update to your favorite psychic!
----------------------------------------------------------
Dear Kim:
I am separated from my wife and am wondering if she is ever going to come back to me. Are we going to get divorced?
Salesh P., 33
Surrey, BC, Canada
Dear Salesh:
What I’m hearing is something I’ll bet you’ve already been suspecting. Your wife has pretty much made up her mind about a divorce but she is too afraid to take the final leap. Existing in this self-imposed limbo is going to get harder and harder for you. Take the leap for her in regard to a divorce, and you’ll immediately begin to create a better quality of life. You will fall in love again, and marry a lovely gal with whom you’ll happily spend the rest of your life. Be kind to yourself...move forward with your life now.
----------------------------------------------------------
Dear Kim:
I am worried about the relationship with the person I am currently living with. He says he’s in love with 2 women at the same time. He loves his ex for this bond they have between them. We recently discussed this and now I feel hurt, confused, and mad. I don’t know whether to move out? Stay and work it out and try therapy? I really do love him. He has shown me how to love again and he is one of the true romantics left in this world. I just can’t imagine him not in my life. Do we have a future together?
Denise G., 43
Indianapolis, Indiana
Dear Denise:
Okay---the situation is truly awful, but at least now you know where you stand with him. To his very great credit, your beau has been honest with you. He seems to clearly understand who he is and what he wants. There is nothing to be confused about! So, the question really is: Are you interested in continually sharing his love and affection?
If he was inclined to move on and let go of his ex, he would have already done so without any prompting, demands, or ultimatums from you. Stop raking the poor guy over the coals because he doesn’t want the same things you do. Accept the fact that the relationship is always going to be a triangle. Wouldn’t you be relieved not to have his ex in your life anymore? Give the two of them the heave-ho, and get back out there to find a sweetie who devotes his time and energy to you...and you alone!
----------------------------------------------------------
Would you like Kim to answer a question for you in her column? Please write or email your question, including your name and age. If you'd like information about a private session, you can contact Kim at 281-651-1599, or through our Contact Form.
Kim O'Neill
4008 Louetta Rd
#362
Spring, Texas 77388
kim@kimoneillpsychic.com
Back to Main Ask Kim Page
|
|
