Dear Kim:
I feel completely confused. I have been married for over seven years, and my relationship with my husband has been incredibly rocky. I frequently feel anger and resentment toward him, yet overall, he is a kind, caring, supportive partner who really does try his best. The trouble is, his best just doesnt feel fulfilling enough to me. I constantly want to run away, travel the world, find my lifes purpose. I feel like I am not on the right path, and have no idea where to find that path. I grew up watching my mother express anger and resentment toward my father every day. As I became a young adult, I wondered why she didnt divorce my dad if she was so unhappy. I even suggested to her that she do so. I told myself I would never stay in a situation that caused me such discontent. And here I am. We have a four-year-old daughter together that I cannot possibly imagine single-parenting. My husband is an excellent father and offers a great deal of parental support. And he loves me very much. Yet if my life were to stay the way it is forever, I would feel it is a life unlived. What am I missing?
Rachael C., 29,
Albany, NY

Dear Rachael:
Your mother was a wonderful teacher because she taught you what not to do. You learned some incredible, consistent lessons about lives unlived that were repeated throughout your childhood. You are not living your mother's life! You are right on path. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater: hubby is a Mr. Wonderful and my vote for Husband of the Year. The anger and resentment you direct toward him is simply frustration over the fact that you haven't yet embarked on your life's work. You have the "willies" about being dependent on a man, correct? But, you trusted hubby enough to marry him and have a child with him, didn't you? Your big challenge is patience. You are not a woman who sits back and contemplates her navel; once a task is finished, you want to launch forward into another chapter of life as quickly as possible. Typically that is a good thing, but in this instance it is causing all kinds of havoc inside of you, as well as in your marriage. Everything else has fallen into place. The only big part of your destiny left to achieve is embarking on your life's work, which is starting your own business. You'd make a fabulous clothing and jewelry designer. Once you delve into that, you're going to feel a fulfillment and satisfaction like nothing you've ever felt before, and realize that your unhappiness has nothing to do with hubby.

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Dear Kim:
I have had a life of good health; no doctor or medications, daily exercise, eat fresh organic food, drink clean water, meditate daily. My question is about some physical symptoms. I have had gas and discomfort on and off in my right side colon for about 16 months. Ive tried some alternative healing modalities and remedies. Could you please tell me the cause of this condition, and if you are given any guidance as to how to clear it? With gratitude and blessings for your compassionate and uplifting work.
Rob K., 69,
Hempstead, TX

Dear Rob:
I am not a healthcare provider and the information I share is directly from your guardian angels. Stating the obvious: gas is awful. First, let's talk about what isn't causing it. Your angels tell me that you already know that you are lactose intolerant, gluten sensitive, and that carbonation of any kind is toxic for you. You also do not have any parasites that are to blame. However, they tell me that there is a benign growth, like a fibroid polyp, in the colon and that is the culprit that is causing the gas. The benign growth, an anomaly, acts as a flap, or fan, as your waste streams by it, thus creating the gas. You will rid yourself of this distracting condition by visualizing the growth detaching from the colon wall and passing from the body through your bowel. You are very good at visualizing...and your angels suggest you begin immediately.

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Dear Kim:
I stumbled upon your website on one of the many nights I could not sleep in search of a psychic. I began reading your Ask Kim Column and knew I had to speak with you about my current situation. My ex-fiancé and I have been broken up for almost two years. About six months ago was the last time I had any communication with him. Recently I've had this strong urge to communicate with him only I'm afraid, and I really want to move on with my life. I desperately want closure, but I'm not sure how to achieve that. I once thought he was Mr. Wonderful until he left me after 5 years of being together. My question is why do I have this strong urge to speak with him and when will I get the closure I need to move on? What was his reason for being in my life? Also, when will Mr. Wonderful come into my life?
S.D.M, 35,
Houston, TX

Dear S.D.M.:
He left after five years together? That must have been devastating! There are several reasons why you want to speak with him now. First, you are lonely; there isn't anyone in your life who remotely interests you, so thoughts return to your ex out of romantic boredom. Also, you were supposed to be a teacher for your ex, and he didn't learn much of anything from you, did he? So, your soul is yearning for the lost opportunity to fulfill its role as a teacher for him. However, he has learned everything he's going to, so you now have all the closure that you will ever have. He was never meant to be a romantic soul mate for you; he came into your life to be a romantic student. Do not call him! If you do, you'll feel a lot worse than you do now! The rest of your healing will occur when you meet Mr. Wonderful in s pring of next year.

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Dear Kim:
I am not sure what to do about my marriage. My husband is a bitter, negative, and unhappy person. He disrupts every holiday and family gathering with his grouchy attitude. He does not want to live life and be involved in family activities. He has an addiction with alcohol. I love my husband and I feel that deep inside he is a good person but he is lost. I try to help my husband, but he tells me that he will not be happy until we have a child. I also want a child but at times I am confused if it is best for us right now. We have fertility issues. I am contemplating leaving the marriage, but I am afraid that I will not find Mr. Wonderful. I want something better for myself. Is there any insight my Angels can provide me. I appreciate your assistance!!!!
K P., 32,
Houston, TX

Dear K P.:
If you were on the Titanic and it was sinking, wouldn't you jump off—even if another luxury liner had not yet come into view? You bet you would! And, what I'm hearing from your angels is that your marriage is like a shipwreck ready to go down for the final time. Your husband wants a baby in spite of the fact that the marriage is in ruin because, first, if you had a baby, you would take your mind off trying to help him, and second, that a baby would glue you to him and you'd be less likely to leave. Your husband does not seem willing to help himself by working through his issues and that makes it virtually impossible for you to continue pretending that the marriage is okay. The sooner you get into therapy and begin your new life—alone—the faster you'll meet Mr. Wonderful!

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Dear Kim:
I have heard of you before, and your book on angels, and also from someone who is from Texas and has respect for you as a psychic. My dilemma is that I love a man whom I have split from. It was so intense and we both still love each other. I meditate on this regularly. I am divorced and desire to have a partner to share my life. I had wished that it would be this man. We are still in contact. He does not have a good track record when it comes to relationships. He does not trust. Yet I would not betray him for I love him, and it would also go against my yogic principles. What to do?
Barbara R., 61,
Sydney, Australia

Dear Barbara:
The man in question would require more strength and courage to reunite with you than he possesses because he fears emotional intimacy—and the resulting rejection that he is convinced will eventually come. These challenges stem from his childhood; and, although he would dearly love to engage in a consistent one-on-one relationship, he will find himself always retreating from what he most desires. Until he addresses his issues of commitment and intimacy with a therapist, his progress will remain derailed. You, on the other hand, have much to look forward to with the arrival of a romantic soul mate...as soon as you decide to move on with your life by mustering the courage to refuse contact with a man you currently love.

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